It seems that Carla and I are pregnant!!!! The EPT came back a little faded, so we're going to go to Planned Parenthood to get a better test
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However, also beatings with a trout (the Trout of Social Conventions™)
There are reasons why people generally don't announce such things until a couple of months in, even if it's really happy news. The home pregnancy tests are far from perfect, and they err on the side of "positive" since people get less upset by having to go to the doctor without need then by avoiding the doctor when they really needed to go. So, at least wait until you get the real doctor's exam before you make the announcement (further).
The other big reason is that the first few weeks of any pregnancy pose the highest risk of miscarriage. It's best not to get too tied to the idea of "we're going to be parents" until Carla's body has really settled into pregnancy mode, because there's a lot (outside of anyone's control) that can go wrong over the next few weeks.
These are among the reasons is why many people wait until the end of the first trimester to make announcements like this. :-p
Suggestion: Top priorty (above car stuff). Carla, health insurance, right now.
Re: Yay! (and fish)gleefMarch 16 2006, 05:51:50 UTC
Well that's not a good sign, although I guess the rabbits (and the animal rights activists) are happier.
My (admittedly limited) understanding, however, is that doctors do a pelvic exam as well, which is certainly not what they are selling in the store. This gives another point of information that's unavailable to the EPT customers.
Since this post, however, she's been to the doctor, and he confirms it :-)
Re: Yay! (and fish)11th_letterMarch 16 2006, 11:38:16 UTC
Sometimes they do a pelvic exam and sometimes not. And certainly it is worthwhile to seek prenatal care sooner rather than later. However, a pelvic exam is not really going to tell you anything as far as confirming a pregnancy goes. But as you say. It is certainly a moot point now.
Re: Yay! (and fish)discover_selfMarch 16 2006, 20:53:35 UTC
The blood test is generally used (from what I've read) before someone's period has started. It detects HCG a little earlier than urine, but isn't necessary. Basically, I went to the doctor because the line was so light and because I wanted to check about insurance costs and prenatal care.
Re: Yay! (and fish)gleefMarch 17 2006, 02:58:49 UTC
All I know is I've met at least one person who got a positive on the home urine test, and when she went to the doctor a day or two later, she was told she was not at all pregnant.
Re: Yay! (and fish)purpuraMarch 16 2006, 01:02:35 UTC
I think of it this way: You're still pregnant, miscarriage or not. There is no "pregnancy mode." She is pregnant. If something goes wrong (Heavens forfend), you have people to support you through the experience. There is no "social convention." There are people's choices. They have chosen to announce and I will support them, in joy, throughout this entire experience.
In that vein: Happy Baby, my friend. I recomend pre-birth nickname of "Puppy!"
Re: Yay! (and fish)gleefMarch 16 2006, 05:56:24 UTC
I think of it this way: You're still pregnant, miscarriage or not. There is no "pregnancy mode."
Sure, but the body makes a number of drastic changes after implantation, some of which take a little while. What I hadn't learned until after I made the comment was the key change between high risk for miscarrage and lower risk of miscarrage wasn't in the woman but in the fetus (heartbeat).
There is no "social convention." There are people's choices. They have chosen to announce and I will support them, in joy, throughout this entire experience.
As will I, but occasionally some fish need to be involved. ;-)
In that vein: Happy Baby, my friend. I recomend pre-birth nickname of "Puppy!"
Yay! I'll go along with that! (maybe it will be a whole litter)
However, also beatings with a trout (the Trout of Social Conventions™)
There are reasons why people generally don't announce such things until a couple of months in, even if it's really happy news. The home pregnancy tests are far from perfect, and they err on the side of "positive" since people get less upset by having to go to the doctor without need then by avoiding the doctor when they really needed to go. So, at least wait until you get the real doctor's exam before you make the announcement (further).
The other big reason is that the first few weeks of any pregnancy pose the highest risk of miscarriage. It's best not to get too tied to the idea of "we're going to be parents" until Carla's body has really settled into pregnancy mode, because there's a lot (outside of anyone's control) that can go wrong over the next few weeks.
These are among the reasons is why many people wait until the end of the first trimester to make announcements like this. :-p
Suggestion: Top priorty (above car stuff). Carla, health insurance, right now.
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My (admittedly limited) understanding, however, is that doctors do a pelvic exam as well, which is certainly not what they are selling in the store. This gives another point of information that's unavailable to the EPT customers.
Since this post, however, she's been to the doctor, and he confirms it :-)
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But as you say. It is certainly a moot point now.
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There is no "social convention." There are people's choices. They have chosen to announce and I will support them, in joy, throughout this entire experience.
In that vein: Happy Baby, my friend. I recomend pre-birth nickname of "Puppy!"
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I will seriously consider this...*grin*
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God, I'm slow. Nickname officially adopted.
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Sure, but the body makes a number of drastic changes after implantation, some of which take a little while. What I hadn't learned until after I made the comment was the key change between high risk for miscarrage and lower risk of miscarrage wasn't in the woman but in the fetus (heartbeat).
There is no "social convention." There are people's choices. They have chosen to announce and I will support them, in joy, throughout this entire experience.
As will I, but occasionally some fish need to be involved. ;-)
In that vein: Happy Baby, my friend. I recomend pre-birth nickname of "Puppy!"
Yay! I'll go along with that! (maybe it will be a whole litter)
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