Walking the gender tightrope
Today I am going shopping with my girlfriend. This is something that I despise greatly, not spending money or buying new things but simply shopping. Yeah, malls suck, people in malls suck even more but mostly where the hell does a woman like me go fucking shopping? I have 2 choices, shop in the men's section where everything will be 4 times too large and hang unattractively from my body or go to the women's section where they won't even carry my size, and if they do I would have to settle for a fucking pair of daisy dukes. T-shirts and lame ass cargo shorts! Wohoo! No wonder so many straight people find lesbians unattractive. THERE IS NO PLACE TO SHOP! What kind of swimwear am I going to wear? A bikini, yeah not in this life time. Uuugh. It's all so freakn' frustrating.
I am not trying to pass as a male. I love being female, just not that standard "feminine" female. I refuse to think that we can't be more fashionable. How is it that gay men find it so easy to shop and gay women are totally ousted from the experience? I feel gender locked by not having the option of wearing a nice breezy skirt. Is that my fault for thinking that way, or would I really look stupid? Or are there skirts that I can pull off, if so where?
I was talking to andrea about this last night trying to explain that these issues are not self centered and shallow but that it is a real issue. It's another place for queer women to be totally uncomfortable and feel insecure about themselves when really they are beautiful. We are told that we are freaks everywhere we go, hair too short, clothes too big and no place to comfortably exist in-between gender lines. Where are the queer fashion designers? Let's do something ladies.
I am not trying to pass as a male. I love being female, just not that standard "feminine" female. I refuse to think that we can't be more fashionable. How is it that gay men find it so easy to shop and gay women are totally ousted from the experience? I feel gender locked by not having the option of wearing a nice breezy skirt. Is that my fault for thinking that way, or would I really look stupid? Or are there skirts that I can pull off, if so where?
I was talking to andrea about this last night trying to explain that these issues are not self centered and shallow but that it is a real issue. It's another place for queer women to be totally uncomfortable and feel insecure about themselves when really they are beautiful. We are told that we are freaks everywhere we go, hair too short, clothes too big and no place to comfortably exist in-between gender lines. Where are the queer fashion designers? Let's do something ladies.