(Warning this is how Tabz delays writing her own script)
I was watching an episode of Reba yesterday (Lifetime plays reruns)
I like the show, it's silly and has fun characters. But the episode that I watched really made me think.
If you're not familiar with the show there's
Reba - the mom
Cheyenne - the oldest girl (ditz and self-absorbed, had a baby as a teenager)
Kira - younger daughter (has the middle kid sterotype, very difficult, plus the "omgosh I hate you" teenage thing going on, smart and can be vindictive, but she has a hidden soft side when she wants to)
There's other characters, but the story centered around these three.
When Cheyenne freaks out about her second (unborn) child possibly being like Kira, she goes on and on about how Kira was a bitch to her. Cheyenne is -convinced- that Kira made everything difficult.
Then Reba, being the good mom she is, tells her that it wasn't Kira who was a bitch. It was Cheyenne. And explains how Cheyenne ruined Kira's 5th birthday (as an example of Cheyenne being a bitch). So Cheyenne decides to throw her another 5th birthday party to make up for it.
Through the whole story Cheyenne figures out that her self-absorbedness is what really caused the break down of the relationship between her and Kira. Even when Cheyenne tries to make it up to Kira, it's more about Cheynne feeling better than helping Kira.
Now, before this episode I would have totally told you that Kira makes it difficult on her family. She's a moody, and as I said before - sometimes vindictive teenager.
But this episode made me pause and really think about this self-absorbedness factor.
Cheyenne LOOKED like she was trying to be helpful when she put together the party, but Kira immediately knew it was about Cheyenne rather than Cheyenne caring about her.
It clicked with me on a very deep thought level kind of way. I realized where nearly all of my interpersonal issues over the years have been stemming from. Nearly all of them can be traced back to this self-absorbedness. Either -I- have been self-absorbed or someone I know has been self-absorbed at me.
Deep thoughts (and avoidy writing)
I like the show, it's silly and has fun characters. But the episode that I watched really made me think.
If you're not familiar with the show there's
Reba - the mom
Cheyenne - the oldest girl (ditz and self-absorbed, had a baby as a teenager)
Kira - younger daughter (has the middle kid sterotype, very difficult, plus the "omgosh I hate you" teenage thing going on, smart and can be vindictive, but she has a hidden soft side when she wants to)
There's other characters, but the story centered around these three.
When Cheyenne freaks out about her second (unborn) child possibly being like Kira, she goes on and on about how Kira was a bitch to her. Cheyenne is -convinced- that Kira made everything difficult.
Then Reba, being the good mom she is, tells her that it wasn't Kira who was a bitch. It was Cheyenne. And explains how Cheyenne ruined Kira's 5th birthday (as an example of Cheyenne being a bitch). So Cheyenne decides to throw her another 5th birthday party to make up for it.
Through the whole story Cheyenne figures out that her self-absorbedness is what really caused the break down of the relationship between her and Kira. Even when Cheyenne tries to make it up to Kira, it's more about Cheynne feeling better than helping Kira.
Now, before this episode I would have totally told you that Kira makes it difficult on her family. She's a moody, and as I said before - sometimes vindictive teenager.
But this episode made me pause and really think about this self-absorbedness factor.
Cheyenne LOOKED like she was trying to be helpful when she put together the party, but Kira immediately knew it was about Cheyenne rather than Cheyenne caring about her.
It clicked with me on a very deep thought level kind of way. I realized where nearly all of my interpersonal issues over the years have been stemming from. Nearly all of them can be traced back to this self-absorbedness. Either -I- have been self-absorbed or someone I know has been self-absorbed at me.
Deep thoughts (and avoidy writing)