Talking
I've been doing some thinking lately about talking.
I'm not very good at conversation, I guess. I try to talk to people, and the conversation generally lags and stops. I did have one occasion when I told someone I am shy, and she later said that I claimed to be shy, but I wasn't, if gotten out of my shell, or something like that. I guess I can be pretty gregarious when the conditions are right... I guess I just don't find the right conditions often. Those conditions, I guess, are simply that I feel someone is interested in what I'm saying.
Anyway, I find this often happening: I meet people, and I would like to get to know them better, or perhaps it's only that they want to get to know me, or sometimes we're both interested in getting to know each other, but the conversation frequently lags. It's almost as though we have nothing to say to each other.
I know that in most of the cases, that isn't true.
We simply don't seem to be able to manage to find those topics of conversation which interest both of us... and I don't know how to find them. It is usually very awkward.
It's not, I think, that we have nothing in common. It's that we don't know what we have in common, so we don't know the topics to discuss or the things to do.
I also wonder whether people read any of the things I write... here, on my website, etc... because I don't hear comments very often at all from people that indicate they've read the things I've written.
This distresses me.
I don't know... maybe the things I write here aren't for others so much as they are for me to express my thoughts.
I'm not very good at conversation, I guess. I try to talk to people, and the conversation generally lags and stops. I did have one occasion when I told someone I am shy, and she later said that I claimed to be shy, but I wasn't, if gotten out of my shell, or something like that. I guess I can be pretty gregarious when the conditions are right... I guess I just don't find the right conditions often. Those conditions, I guess, are simply that I feel someone is interested in what I'm saying.
Anyway, I find this often happening: I meet people, and I would like to get to know them better, or perhaps it's only that they want to get to know me, or sometimes we're both interested in getting to know each other, but the conversation frequently lags. It's almost as though we have nothing to say to each other.
I know that in most of the cases, that isn't true.
We simply don't seem to be able to manage to find those topics of conversation which interest both of us... and I don't know how to find them. It is usually very awkward.
It's not, I think, that we have nothing in common. It's that we don't know what we have in common, so we don't know the topics to discuss or the things to do.
I also wonder whether people read any of the things I write... here, on my website, etc... because I don't hear comments very often at all from people that indicate they've read the things I've written.
This distresses me.
I don't know... maybe the things I write here aren't for others so much as they are for me to express my thoughts.