this is my running-on-too-little-sleep rambling...squizitDecember 10 2003, 20:52:41 UTC
the biggest flaw i see in the arguments of the anti-proud-about-your-best-friendships is this:
if people are gonna be jealous, that's cool, you know? it happens. people are jealous everyday about a lot of things (her hair, his humor, her car, his backpack... loser. hahaha) BUT if you're going to stand up & say something about it, have something a little more sturdy than your EMOTIONS to base the argument off of. because otherwise it's just people spouting off all of the feelings they've felt at one point, & ANYONE can do that. this doesn't make their argument less valid, it just takes the word argument & turns it into the word "opinion," & opinions shouldn't necessarily be voiced if it's negative towards the people that are so intensely positive about the subject in question.
i mean it's not like i walk around freaking out about how everyone & their brother is so excited to snowboard but i'm not included (granted, i'm not included because i don't have a strong desire--or cash flow--to be haha so it's no big deal). i ALSO feel pangs of... not "jealousy" persay, but something along those lines when i hear everyone talk about their healthy, happy realationships. i mean if i got a dollar for everytime i read a lj entry about so-&-so's bf/gf being amazing i'd prolly have $1000 at least by now. i don't have a boyfriend. i would like a boyfriend. does that give me the right to tell those who are fortunate enough to be in these relationships to stop rubbing it in my face? nope. i can feel whatever the hell i want, but i'm not gonna try to stifle someone's expression of "love" for their gf/bf because when you can tell that they're so passionate about it why would you mess with it? & that's hypothetical, bc i really wouldn't tell anyone to stop talking about it anyway because i kind of like hearing the mushy love stuff :)
so... i don't know where i'm going with this. i didn't really see the point, & i guess if we're allegedly leaving comments all over proclaiming how we're the best & no one else can be in with us we should stop. i can't think of a situation that we've done what they said we did, but i'm not saying it never happened either because it probably did at some point. we'll be more careful then i guess. but i'm definitely not going to hesitate if i want to write an entry about how much i love you & heather (or TX, since 2 letters is a lot easier to type than l.a.u.r.e.n.a.n.d.h.e.a.t.h.e.r haha) so if they don't want to read it i suggest they... dont. it's really that simple. & i guess at the end of the day this gives us a better look at the people around us.
this turned into a grossly long comment... sorry about that. & i hope i didn't offend anyone either because that's clearly not my intention, i just think this got out of hand & if they're all gonna go off on why they think what they think, then i should just warn that they shouldn't throw stones in a glass house.
regardless, i love you soo so much & i'll be seeing you manana :) *remind me to explain my boy/girl friend thoughts (hopefully i'll still remember what meant by then hahaha)
Re: this is my running-on-too-little-sleep rambling...skittles04December 11 2003, 08:22:39 UTC
That was a really sensable and logical comment kel. Unfortunatly, i think that i just saw you for the most that i will see you for the remainder of the school day (between 4th and 5th hour...im in comp [5th] right now).
Anywho, i love you sososo much and i cant wait for tx night =) (even tho you have to go visit u of m right after school. college is already starting to take you away from me >=/)
if people are gonna be jealous, that's cool, you know? it happens. people are jealous everyday about a lot of things (her hair, his humor, her car, his backpack... loser. hahaha) BUT if you're going to stand up & say something about it, have something a little more sturdy than your EMOTIONS to base the argument off of. because otherwise it's just people spouting off all of the feelings they've felt at one point, & ANYONE can do that. this doesn't make their argument less valid, it just takes the word argument & turns it into the word "opinion," & opinions shouldn't necessarily be voiced if it's negative towards the people that are so intensely positive about the subject in question.
i mean it's not like i walk around freaking out about how everyone & their brother is so excited to snowboard but i'm not included (granted, i'm not included because i don't have a strong desire--or cash flow--to be haha so it's no big deal).
i ALSO feel pangs of... not "jealousy" persay, but something along those lines when i hear everyone talk about their healthy, happy realationships. i mean if i got a dollar for everytime i read a lj entry about so-&-so's bf/gf being amazing i'd prolly have $1000 at least by now. i don't have a boyfriend. i would like a boyfriend. does that give me the right to tell those who are fortunate enough to be in these relationships to stop rubbing it in my face? nope. i can feel whatever the hell i want, but i'm not gonna try to stifle someone's expression of "love" for their gf/bf because when you can tell that they're so passionate about it why would you mess with it? & that's hypothetical, bc i really wouldn't tell anyone to stop talking about it anyway because i kind of like hearing the mushy love stuff :)
so... i don't know where i'm going with this. i didn't really see the point, & i guess if we're allegedly leaving comments all over proclaiming how we're the best & no one else can be in with us we should stop. i can't think of a situation that we've done what they said we did, but i'm not saying it never happened either because it probably did at some point. we'll be more careful then i guess. but i'm definitely not going to hesitate if i want to write an entry about how much i love you & heather (or TX, since 2 letters is a lot easier to type than l.a.u.r.e.n.a.n.d.h.e.a.t.h.e.r haha) so if they don't want to read it i suggest they... dont. it's really that simple. & i guess at the end of the day this gives us a better look at the people around us.
this turned into a grossly long comment... sorry about that. & i hope i didn't offend anyone either because that's clearly not my intention, i just think this got out of hand & if they're all gonna go off on why they think what they think, then i should just warn that they shouldn't throw stones in a glass house.
regardless, i love you soo so much & i'll be seeing you manana :)
*remind me to explain my boy/girl friend thoughts (hopefully i'll still remember what meant by then hahaha)
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Anywho, i love you sososo much and i cant wait for tx night =) (even tho you have to go visit u of m right after school. college is already starting to take you away from me >=/)
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