Past, Tense?
I've been emailing back and forth with Padre Mike, the padre at the military college where we'll be getting married, and all of this time I've been thinking that his name sounded awfully familiar. Today it hit me: he's the padre who stood beside when I went to my ex's repatriation ceremony when they brought him back from Afghanistan.
I told R about it as soon as I figured out how I knew the padre, and his immediate response was "are you okay with that?" (my emphasis). I've thought about it, and I am. I remember Padre Mike as being someone who was nice to me when I really needed it, the fact that that memory happens to be tied to an ex-boyfriend's death doesn't, for me, change that fact.
I'm wondering, however, if it's fair to my fiance to have anything that he might remind him of my ex? Even if it's one he never has and never will meet? He says it doesn't bother him, but is it something that I should even be asking of him? As much as I like Padre Mike, this wedding is about both of us.
Speaking of my awesome fiance, exactly two years ago tomorrow, I met the man I'm going to marry. (D'awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!)
I told R about it as soon as I figured out how I knew the padre, and his immediate response was "are you okay with that?" (my emphasis). I've thought about it, and I am. I remember Padre Mike as being someone who was nice to me when I really needed it, the fact that that memory happens to be tied to an ex-boyfriend's death doesn't, for me, change that fact.
I'm wondering, however, if it's fair to my fiance to have anything that he might remind him of my ex? Even if it's one he never has and never will meet? He says it doesn't bother him, but is it something that I should even be asking of him? As much as I like Padre Mike, this wedding is about both of us.
Speaking of my awesome fiance, exactly two years ago tomorrow, I met the man I'm going to marry. (D'awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!)