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[skinnykandinsky]

mom just told me that al is moving out. she wanted to know how that made me feel and i didn't want to hurt her feelings so i just reversed the question back to how she was doing. truth is i never adjusted to him living with us. i got along with him better as time moved one, but i still always felt like being nice to him was betraying my father. so i'm not upset in the least but i'm not like yay he's finally gone. i just want my mom to be happy. apparently they had been arguing because even though the house is owned by my mom, he wanted to turn our basement into a recording studio (the entire thing), and wanted his parents to move in. um, hello, that would be my room they would be moving into and my bathroom they would be using. i don't think so. mom retires in 5 years and wants to move to california so she can be near me and be outdoors all the time. he wants them to move to north carolina. mom wants to travel and have fun and he says he will never retire because he owns his own company and in order to make a living he would never be able to retire. mom also knows that if his parents moved in she would end up having to take care of them and as much as she likes them she has to put her own parents first and if something happened to them and they got sick she would move to arizona to take care of them. he thought she was being selfish but i told her its her house, and if she wants to retire and travel and live near me then she's doing what she wants to do and that's not selfish. she has worked job after job in the government that she has hated to make enough money to support herself and she deserves to finally do everything she has wanted when she retires. she said she's ok with the decision. not upset but disappointed but it was the right thing to do. she said she's not looking forward to going through everything to decide who's is who's but that we can go get a new tv and dvd player when he takes his and i was like aw jeez mom a tv is the least of my worries. this is why there is no way she is being selfish. my mother is the least selfish person ever. she does everything for other people and deserves to be happy.

second bit of news is that grandpa morrie had his third operation to treat his prostate cancer and he is having a rough recovery. he is 93 so just the anesthesia could be what's upsetting him. i really want to visit him. i feel sad when i think that i have very few possible visits left with them. my grandparents are awesome and i wish i got to see them more than, at the most, once a year.