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[sixen]

OK. Following the wisdom of Ms. Eme Kah, I am going to cut back on whining and complaining. I can air my problem/issue and seek advice/support but then I have to take action/not take action and drop it. I think that whining and complaining may allow me to become stuck in one place - not moving forward. I risk missing the good things that are

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[sixen]

the hard part is moving forward. There's a fine line between "repressing" your complaining, and just having it explode a week later worse than ever, and finding a way to acknowledge what's making you unhappy, accepting it, and carrying on with it.

I'm going to tape this to my computer and think about it.

My sister and I were talking yesterday about this issue in our family. My parents fought so much when we were younger and a lot of it was very ugly. It was so ugly that my brothers are reluctant to marry. Anyway, neither one of them is willing to move forward and both have repressed complaining - only to have it explode later - sometimes days, sometimes weeks, months or even years later. I don't think that either on of them can accept that the other makes mistakes and come to some sort of resolution. So, early on, my siblings and I learned a lot about grudge carrying and retaliating against other people.

This is a very difficult behaviour to unlearn. Neither my sister nor I have perfected it but we are both trying. I think your comment is a really good road map for it.

thank you Sophie!