Happy Easter!
Taryn and I broke up. I'll say it's a more mutual thing than one-sided although I did bring up the topic that pretty much secured our collected thought.
THE TOPIC: "I've batted around with the theory that I don't think I'm the type of guy in which you need for a relationship."
WHY I'M NOT: I'm fiercely independent and argumentative and painfully blunt and direct about things, and I'm not foolish to think that this kind of mold gels well with everyone's preferences. She just got out of a relationship in which she was the more assertive dominant one, and while she made claims over how much that annoyed her, I don't think she actively is comfortable with the other side. I believe in keeping things communicative and airing out concerns and she either doesn't or is too used to harboring it from her previous relationships.
WHAT BROUGHT ME TO MAKING THIS STATEMENT THEN THE COLLECTED CONCLUSION: Things have been strained, it seems. We've been arguing a lot about fights that can be avoided if one side were a bit more communicative, and rather than continue this trend and totally scrap a really good friendship, we're deciding to eliminate this part of our engagement under the reasoning (summarized and dumbed down): "Some friends probably can't date."
WHERE THINGS STAND NOW: Weirdly. We're still friends and, as friends and as adults, we're still interested in one another sexually, so, as friends and as adults, we're going to have sex with one another. I, and her, are both aware of particularly how that is different from the relationship and how it is not. I've personally been in a couple of these arrangements, and to my experience, they never seem to work out rosy.
But, what's the worst that can happen? Her and I continue to not date? Extreme worst, we lose our friendship, which, under the previous path, we were heading towards anyhow.
CURRENT STANCE ON HOW TO PLAY THINGS OUT: By ear.
CURRENT MOOD ALTOGETHER: Intrigued, but not unhappy, as most people in this situation might be. It's almost kind of alarming as to how stoic I seem to be. I'm not sure if it's age showing through or if it's just logic. There's just not that much to be upset over, really.
THE TOPIC: "I've batted around with the theory that I don't think I'm the type of guy in which you need for a relationship."
WHY I'M NOT: I'm fiercely independent and argumentative and painfully blunt and direct about things, and I'm not foolish to think that this kind of mold gels well with everyone's preferences. She just got out of a relationship in which she was the more assertive dominant one, and while she made claims over how much that annoyed her, I don't think she actively is comfortable with the other side. I believe in keeping things communicative and airing out concerns and she either doesn't or is too used to harboring it from her previous relationships.
WHAT BROUGHT ME TO MAKING THIS STATEMENT THEN THE COLLECTED CONCLUSION: Things have been strained, it seems. We've been arguing a lot about fights that can be avoided if one side were a bit more communicative, and rather than continue this trend and totally scrap a really good friendship, we're deciding to eliminate this part of our engagement under the reasoning (summarized and dumbed down): "Some friends probably can't date."
WHERE THINGS STAND NOW: Weirdly. We're still friends and, as friends and as adults, we're still interested in one another sexually, so, as friends and as adults, we're going to have sex with one another. I, and her, are both aware of particularly how that is different from the relationship and how it is not. I've personally been in a couple of these arrangements, and to my experience, they never seem to work out rosy.
But, what's the worst that can happen? Her and I continue to not date? Extreme worst, we lose our friendship, which, under the previous path, we were heading towards anyhow.
CURRENT STANCE ON HOW TO PLAY THINGS OUT: By ear.
CURRENT MOOD ALTOGETHER: Intrigued, but not unhappy, as most people in this situation might be. It's almost kind of alarming as to how stoic I seem to be. I'm not sure if it's age showing through or if it's just logic. There's just not that much to be upset over, really.