love is an overinflated word. It has two distinct meanings that are related but not at all grammatically similar.
Love the noun refers to the feeling you get, the attachment that comes from finding someone who touches your heart in a special way, leaves you tingling and needing more. Actually there are three kinds of THIS love also, but that's secondary to my point.
Love the verb is very different. To love someone does NOT mean to have love for them, although that is usually the case, and is why the phrase "I love you" is a very stupid convoluted phrase. To love someone means to cherish them, to treat them as something special and honored, to protect them from harm and wish for their happiness in all things.
Having love for someone is not contractual. Rather, it is a disease. Love comes and stays regardless of your will and destroys your objectivity, your ability to function without the target's reciprocity. LovING someone, however, is much more a matter of will, and in a manner of speaking, always contractual. A stable person only chooses to love someone who is worthy of it. You may BE in love with a villain, someone who spends their time hurting you, but to love this person willingly, deliberately, inevitably suggests mental imbalance.
sorry if it came off as me saying you are mental imbalanced. I didn't mean that. I only meant that love is often a contract: whenever it's chosen, rather than inflicted.
I understand your point. But either way I don't give much of a crap whether I'm mentally stable or not. It doesn't matter to me and as long as it doesn't affect anyone else then I'm perfectly fine with being mentally unstable. You did put things in perspective, though.
Moreover, this post really isn't about a villain. This particular villain I'm so fond of never said anything about love, and I am so VERY thankful for that. At least he didn't say it then change his fucking mind a couple months after getting to know me because I did something stupid and have feelings for someone else. That's not love.
Having been through the same thing three times, I have decided that if any guy says "I love you" I will break off the relationship with him because those words cannot be trusted and, as you explained so eloquently, are "convoluted". I definitely agree.
Love the noun refers to the feeling you get, the attachment that comes from finding someone who touches your heart in a special way, leaves you tingling and needing more. Actually there are three kinds of THIS love also, but that's secondary to my point.
Love the verb is very different. To love someone does NOT mean to have love for them, although that is usually the case, and is why the phrase "I love you" is a very stupid convoluted phrase. To love someone means to cherish them, to treat them as something special and honored, to protect them from harm and wish for their happiness in all things.
Having love for someone is not contractual. Rather, it is a disease. Love comes and stays regardless of your will and destroys your objectivity, your ability to function without the target's reciprocity. LovING someone, however, is much more a matter of will, and in a manner of speaking, always contractual. A stable person only chooses to love someone who is worthy of it. You may BE in love with a villain, someone who spends their time hurting you, but to love this person willingly, deliberately, inevitably suggests mental imbalance.
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Moreover, this post really isn't about a villain. This particular villain I'm so fond of never said anything about love, and I am so VERY thankful for that. At least he didn't say it then change his fucking mind a couple months after getting to know me because I did something stupid and have feelings for someone else. That's not love.
Having been through the same thing three times, I have decided that if any guy says "I love you" I will break off the relationship with him because those words cannot be trusted and, as you explained so eloquently, are "convoluted". I definitely agree.
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