Mother's Day Rant
If women are not convinced of the rewards of being a mother before they get pregnant, they shouldn't BE mothers. I willingly signed up for this. Granted, it's taking a bit longer than 18 years, but at least they eventually move out! I'm willing to see this child-raising thing out -- as much as it has ravaged my body and my mind. LOL I hope to get a few years of peace when they become mature enough to run their own lives. This is an unbelievably slow process in my kids' case, but I'm not complaining because they've turned out really really well --if I do say so myself. Hopefully they can continue to communicate and relate even after maturity hits. Hopefully they will choose to have a child(ren) themselves and I won't be called upon to babysit too much.
In terms of acknowledgements:
One "special" day a year is not enough, and it's too superficial and too commercial (which is my issue with holidays in general). Moms need and deserve so much more. The setting aside of one day just makes me somewhat resentful. I want my kids to think about me, relate to me, treat me to delights as I've always treated them -- but I want it all the year round. One day is like a ten cent tip -- an insult.
We need to voice what we want. Our children are the blank slates upon we try to write the history of the world as we think it should be. I want consistent, spoken and unspoken, honest acknowledgement -- even if that acknowledgement is sometimes criticism. After all, who knows you better than the Mini-Me's we have created? Mothers don't need cards, flowers, dinners or whatever -- but they do NEED and WANT cooperation and inspiration. Mothers not only need their children's physical strength but their understanding of an evolving world.
Make a woman's, a mother's, life easier on a daily basis, don't be so selfish, remember the world doesn't revolve around you -- she did when she raised YOU. The best gift is showing someone you care by being present and helpful and engaged. Take a burden off her. Do her taxes, escort her, be her friend, create for her an atmosphere of living change. Make every day spent with YOU a day worth remembering -- by both of you.