Motherly Wisdom.
Impending parenthood is a lot of pressure. I mean, not just with the taking care of them and naming them and cleaning and providing and everything. Its that, you're raising a person. Right from the start, the things you show your baby are things that will stick with them for life and form them into whoever they are going to be in the future. Society and their friends and school will take over after a certain point, but you mold them from the get-go. You are a model of how a human being should act. That, to me, is a lot.
There are many things about life that I really hope I can teach my child. I hope to be as great of a parent as my own mother was. My father never taught me anything. But my mother, she was amazing. She was able to take care of me and my brother, on her own, and turn us into intelligent, functional, compassionate members of society. I could never be more thankful for that. I shudder to think of how differently I could have turned out. And when I say that I am a good person I'm not complimenting myself. I'm complimenting her. She is the reason that I am who I am. The reason I am confident and strong and right ALL THE TIME (teehee).
If I turn out to have a girl, I want to instill the same strength I have into her. I want her to face the world with the same stiff upper lip that I inherited. I think its very important for women to be tough, because as women we deal with too much pain to be soft. I know any boy I have will endure, because he wont have the same hardships as a female. Men go through a lot, but you can't make a list long enough with the shit that women put up with. Its different ends of the scale. Its not comparable.
Above all, I want my child to believe in the goodness of God and the goodness in the people that he/she created. At the same time, I do not want my child to be gullible and too impressionable. People can be good, but they can also steer you in the wrong direction if you are not careful.
My main point of advice to my kid is going to be, "Don't drink the purple kool aid." Use your head. Don't take, make, and eat everything that people say. Because people do not know what they are talking about. The only thing that can ever really save you is your own head. What you can do for yourself. Whatever creator is up there will help you along the way, but they made you and gave you a life of your own. And no one can understand what God wants for us. Look at all the hatred and greed and evil that has been spawned, and for some so called god. That isn't God. That is people being stupid.
Look at all the rights that have been stripped from people, the prejudices that have been made due to some bible. That isn't the word of god. That is the word of man. And that man was STUPID.
Look at all the murders that have been committed due to some god. That isn't God. THAT IS PEOPLE. And people are corrupted by more than their so called word of god. They are corrupted by an insanity for power the levels of which are disturbing.
I'm going to give my baby something real to believe in. The power of change, for one. The strength that you have due to a confidence in yourself. The love that is not always hidden, but is written aloud if you look for it. The truth of justice for ALL.
ALL. Not some. Not him or her. ALL.
I'm going to teach my baby to judge by the content of character. Not by some misleading bias of the public. Don't discriminate because someone is gay. Don't discriminate because someone is a different culture that you do not understand. Don't discriminate because someone is fat. Don't discriminate because someone is mentally disabled. Don't discriminate because someone is poor.
Everything comes to a conclusion. But make sure that your conclusion is coming from a place of options weighed. Make sure you are in a place of understanding beforehand. Make sure you're not being a dick for the sake of being a dick.
"Don't drink the purple kool aid, baby." I'll have to say it every day.
There are many things about life that I really hope I can teach my child. I hope to be as great of a parent as my own mother was. My father never taught me anything. But my mother, she was amazing. She was able to take care of me and my brother, on her own, and turn us into intelligent, functional, compassionate members of society. I could never be more thankful for that. I shudder to think of how differently I could have turned out. And when I say that I am a good person I'm not complimenting myself. I'm complimenting her. She is the reason that I am who I am. The reason I am confident and strong and right ALL THE TIME (teehee).
If I turn out to have a girl, I want to instill the same strength I have into her. I want her to face the world with the same stiff upper lip that I inherited. I think its very important for women to be tough, because as women we deal with too much pain to be soft. I know any boy I have will endure, because he wont have the same hardships as a female. Men go through a lot, but you can't make a list long enough with the shit that women put up with. Its different ends of the scale. Its not comparable.
Above all, I want my child to believe in the goodness of God and the goodness in the people that he/she created. At the same time, I do not want my child to be gullible and too impressionable. People can be good, but they can also steer you in the wrong direction if you are not careful.
My main point of advice to my kid is going to be, "Don't drink the purple kool aid." Use your head. Don't take, make, and eat everything that people say. Because people do not know what they are talking about. The only thing that can ever really save you is your own head. What you can do for yourself. Whatever creator is up there will help you along the way, but they made you and gave you a life of your own. And no one can understand what God wants for us. Look at all the hatred and greed and evil that has been spawned, and for some so called god. That isn't God. That is people being stupid.
Look at all the rights that have been stripped from people, the prejudices that have been made due to some bible. That isn't the word of god. That is the word of man. And that man was STUPID.
Look at all the murders that have been committed due to some god. That isn't God. THAT IS PEOPLE. And people are corrupted by more than their so called word of god. They are corrupted by an insanity for power the levels of which are disturbing.
I'm going to give my baby something real to believe in. The power of change, for one. The strength that you have due to a confidence in yourself. The love that is not always hidden, but is written aloud if you look for it. The truth of justice for ALL.
ALL. Not some. Not him or her. ALL.
I'm going to teach my baby to judge by the content of character. Not by some misleading bias of the public. Don't discriminate because someone is gay. Don't discriminate because someone is a different culture that you do not understand. Don't discriminate because someone is fat. Don't discriminate because someone is mentally disabled. Don't discriminate because someone is poor.
Everything comes to a conclusion. But make sure that your conclusion is coming from a place of options weighed. Make sure you are in a place of understanding beforehand. Make sure you're not being a dick for the sake of being a dick.
"Don't drink the purple kool aid, baby." I'll have to say it every day.