Mothers say the darnedest things...
In the spirit of being home early for the holidays due to my mother's declining health, I am going to try to catalogue the more ridiculous/bigoted things she says while I'm here. Now, my mother is extremely progressive as far as most people go. She's not an LGBT activist but considering she's first-in-family to get a post-secondary education, she has come a long way. That said, she's never really dealt with gay people, let alone trans people... and now she has what she thinks is a lesbian daughter who dresses in boy clothes. Fun times!
Upon seeing me on Thursday after I rushed over after my exam, her first words are "ugh I hate your pants". I dress in full men's clothes now and have for a month, it makes me so much more comfortable about myself and I've told her that I wear it because it's comfortable. I didn't even realize that I was binding that day until she later made some comment about "giving up on being female" and "chopping off [my] breasts and getting rid of [my] uterus". Note that I am not out to her, she just came up with this because I explained I was wearing a light compression shirt as she was perplexed by my flatter chest. She also told me she cries herself to sleep at night because I wear male pants.
Granted, my sister (15) took one look at me and said "are you like transgender or something?" in this borderline scathing tone. I'm not sure if she meant it to be an insult but it certainly came across as something not-positive. Meanwhile, my brother (17) asked for me to give him my shirt "once [you] get tired of it". I thought that was kind of awesome. I am one well-dressed dude, no doubt about it.
Anyway, mother ended up asking me to dress more female around her family, especially her father as he'll be confused about it and ask repetitive questions. I only brought male clothes with me so far but I have an exam on Thursday evening so I'll be spending the night at home. I guess I'll be bringing more girl-side-of-androgynous clothing back with me on Friday.
Honestly, considering the state of my mother's health, I'm surprised this is an issue at all. My mom explained that she doesn't have the energy to explain me and that's why I should dress girl-mode as a Christmas present to her. If she wasn't so ill, I'd call her out on her behaviour, but alas... it's all about priorities.
Her face when I make subtle gay jokes around her family is rather priceless though.
Upon seeing me on Thursday after I rushed over after my exam, her first words are "ugh I hate your pants". I dress in full men's clothes now and have for a month, it makes me so much more comfortable about myself and I've told her that I wear it because it's comfortable. I didn't even realize that I was binding that day until she later made some comment about "giving up on being female" and "chopping off [my] breasts and getting rid of [my] uterus". Note that I am not out to her, she just came up with this because I explained I was wearing a light compression shirt as she was perplexed by my flatter chest. She also told me she cries herself to sleep at night because I wear male pants.
Granted, my sister (15) took one look at me and said "are you like transgender or something?" in this borderline scathing tone. I'm not sure if she meant it to be an insult but it certainly came across as something not-positive. Meanwhile, my brother (17) asked for me to give him my shirt "once [you] get tired of it". I thought that was kind of awesome. I am one well-dressed dude, no doubt about it.
Anyway, mother ended up asking me to dress more female around her family, especially her father as he'll be confused about it and ask repetitive questions. I only brought male clothes with me so far but I have an exam on Thursday evening so I'll be spending the night at home. I guess I'll be bringing more girl-side-of-androgynous clothing back with me on Friday.
Honestly, considering the state of my mother's health, I'm surprised this is an issue at all. My mom explained that she doesn't have the energy to explain me and that's why I should dress girl-mode as a Christmas present to her. If she wasn't so ill, I'd call her out on her behaviour, but alas... it's all about priorities.
Her face when I make subtle gay jokes around her family is rather priceless though.