From personal experience: there comes a point when there is too much hurt, too much anger, too much resentment, too much fear, too much frustration, and reconciliation is too formidable a task.
There comes a point when the change, or the amount of change, that would need to take place would take longer than a person is mentally or emotionally capable of waiting.
There is also the consideration that in a situation of divorce, both people must change, as both people contributed to the demise of the marriage (and yes, in all cases, both people contributed - not necessarily equally, but both did contribute). And depending on how bad things have been and for how long, she may not have enough faith/hope/love/strength to be willing to make the necessary changes on her part. In which case, seeking divorce is the right choice. If she does not have the fortitude or desire to fight, then not pursuing the divorce only delays the inevitable (and that delay is VERY FUCKING PAINFUL, Leroy).
Understand that I will support you in whatever capacity I am able. But, as I told Mel, I'm not very good at candy-coating, so if you ask my opinion, understand that you will get exactly that much.
I'm sorry for this loss. For you, for Mel, for your kids. *love*
There comes a point when the change, or the amount of change, that would need to take place would take longer than a person is mentally or emotionally capable of waiting.
There is also the consideration that in a situation of divorce, both people must change, as both people contributed to the demise of the marriage (and yes, in all cases, both people contributed - not necessarily equally, but both did contribute). And depending on how bad things have been and for how long, she may not have enough faith/hope/love/strength to be willing to make the necessary changes on her part. In which case, seeking divorce is the right choice. If she does not have the fortitude or desire to fight, then not pursuing the divorce only delays the inevitable (and that delay is VERY FUCKING PAINFUL, Leroy).
Understand that I will support you in whatever capacity I am able. But, as I told Mel, I'm not very good at candy-coating, so if you ask my opinion, understand that you will get exactly that much.
I'm sorry for this loss. For you, for Mel, for your kids. *love*
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