fun with CPS
So, I had an awesome day. Starts out by dumping rain on me and my son as we wait for his bus to Kindergarten. Then I get home and there's a knock on my door. It's CPS. I freak out thinking someone turned me in for being broke and they're going to take my son. My stress level was not good at that point. But no, turns out my ex-stepfather is being a fucking douchebag to my mom.
my mom does not have the best taste in men. Her and my father got divorced when I was one and I haven't seen or heard from the man since other than one letter when I was six. When I was eight she met another man and they got married when I was nine. He was nice enough at first. Then the emotional abuse began. Then the physical. And then the oldest of my sisters. She was born 2 weeks before my 10th birthday, and overnight, I was a mother. I took care of her more than either of my parents did. Three years later, my next sister was born. At six months she started having seizures. She is currently 14 with the mental capacity of a 9 year old, and the emotional comprehension of a 7 year old. She is the absolute sweetest person you would ever hope to meet. At 19 I got the opportunity to move out of the house and I took it. Turns out my mom was pregnant again. My youngest sister was born 3 weeks after my 20th birthday. Over the course of these years, the drinking and emotional abuse escalated, me getting the absolute brunt of it, how ever, my disabled sister did endure a good amount. In fact I was almost kicked out over some grilled potatoes. Nothing I did was good enough, but I was made to cook, clean, take care of my 2 sisters (the youngest not being born until after I left), and maintain a 3.8 gpa in all advanced classes. So I cracked. I spent some time in an institution after high school graduation. Anyway, 2 months after the youngest was born, my mom catches him cheating on her. He had apparently been doing it for almost a year. So she left him, and moved out to Indiana to be near me. Fast forward 8 years: he's $20,000 behind in child support and my mother is struggling to raise 3 girls on her own. The oldest, having just graduated, moved in with me to make things easier on her. Then he decides he wants to have the other 2 go out to Utah for the summer. While they're there, he says he wants both to stay. Indefinately. Currently my mother has sole custody, and is under no legal obligation to let him see them at all since he's so far behind on child support. However, she asks both of them if they want to stay. The 14 year old does, but the youngest wants to come home. So mom asks everyone's opinion to make an informed decision, and we all come to the consensus that the youngest needs to come home. He however continues to push the issue even after she's returned, saying he's worried about the way my mother's raising her because my neighborhood is terrible (she lives 3 doors down from me) and she's running wild with trouble makers (I firmly believe that this is because they're black). And that brings us to today: he has reported my mother for leaving my sister *alone* at home while she goes to work. Ok, she works 3 days a week, but those are 12 hour shifts. When she's not home, my sister comes over here, because there's always someone here. I walk with her to the bus stop, I do her homework with her. The only time she's in that house alone is when she gets home after school to changer her clothes and when she decides she doesn't like what I'm making for dinner, I let her get something from her house to eat over here. (On a side note, when they first got together, they left me alone to fend for myself all the goddamned time. I remember crying myself to sleep some nights because I thought they forgot about me. I've also got some awesome stories about how they used to have sex in the same room I was in cuz they thought I was sleeping) Now I know she's not the best mother ever, she's lazy and the house is usually a mess, but she's a hell of a lot better than he is. But I got to go defend her today because he's an angry, vindictive douchebag who is just now showing some interest in his daughter's lives (you know that child support he owes? She can't collect it because his paychecks are all under the table. Legally he doesn't have a job).The kicker is, the Social Worker told my mother " we get this all the time. It looks like you have everything under control, if he continues this, you may be able to sue for harrassment." So you know what: FUCK YOU JAMES. FUCK YOU AND THAT FUCKING HORSE YOU RODE IN ON. YOUR FUCKING ALCOHOLIC ABUSIVE ASS DOESN'T DESERVE ANY CHILDREN AND IF THIS ISSUE DOES NOT DISAPPEAR, YOU CAN BELIEVE I WILL MAKE SURE YOU NEVER SEE THEM AGAIN. I am beyond anger at this point. You do not fuck with shit like this.