Comments | siren52684: weddings. and rationalizing sex.

siren52684

weddings. and rationalizing sex.

Jun 22, 2005 01:38

my cousin georgina is jet-setting off to greece in a few days, where she will undoubtedly be proposed to by her boyfriend on a beach on some gorgeous island. she will return home with a rock the size of mykonos on her left hand and join the parade of people i know who are engaged or married or planning a wedding or getting married this summer ( Read more... )

boys, introspection, sex, dating, insecurity

Comments 19

gymini June 22 2005, 08:08:52 UTC

exactly!!!! Wow thats it thats so true.

siren52684 June 22 2005, 20:55:03 UTC

uh...what's so true?

gymini June 22 2005, 23:04:03 UTC

just what you said. I know what you mean.

siren52684 June 23 2005, 04:06:42 UTC

lol, what i meant was that i said a lot of things about how my family doesn't think i'll ever get married and how i am a giant trainwreck when it comes to relationships and sex, most of it exceedingly personal. i guess i just didn't understand what you meant?

jpallan June 22 2005, 08:24:18 UTC

:nod: You're incredibly bright and beautiful. Your sensuality -- your ability to feel and enjoy things, not necessarily sex -- is plain and clear to everyone, and lots of people assume that sensuous vibe means oh-em-gee-want-lots-of-sexxor. You're more than that.

siren52684 June 22 2005, 20:56:22 UTC

well that's just it. if it was "plain and clear to everyone" then i doubt i'd be in a situation like i am.

also <3

likealion June 22 2005, 13:40:00 UTC

Go you for realising things like that about yourself. You WILL find someone that is what you are looking for (at what age, i'm not sure... i'm just sure it will happen). I have no doubts about that. ;)

siren52684 June 22 2005, 20:56:55 UTC

aww, well thanks. :)

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siren52684 June 23 2005, 04:07:56 UTC

i don't think i'd mind them so much if they weren't happening to people i knew intimately.

evilcat84 June 22 2005, 23:17:56 UTC

I don't understand why, at barely over 21, you've labeled yourself, or allowed others to label you, as "not the marrying type." You've hardly had a chance to play the game and you're already quitting. Why? What does that accomplish? It seems as if, with the exception of the boy mentioned above who you turned down, you only look for non-committal relationships, and then you complain about how you never have a committed relationship. I fail to see the logic behind this pattern. However, I do understand where it comes from: your fear of rejection by someone who you care about. And I understand that this is all because you've been burned in the past. But it still doesn't make much sense ( ... )

siren52684 June 23 2005, 05:40:38 UTC

this whole "i'm not going to get married" thing has been around for a few years now. it's surfacing because people in my own age group are getting hitched and having bridal showers and gift registries and crap. that's a weird and jagged little pill (second alanis quote in this entry) to swallow.

as for the relationships, for a while i KNEW i wasn't ready to get back into things and play the game again, and that's what made the whole FWB thing okay. but they're not okay anymore and the problem is that when i try to take them a step further, the fall to shit on me, and that just kills me every time, so i've been refraining.

evilcat84 June 23 2005, 20:37:37 UTC

Okay, other people your age group-ish are getting engaged/married. So? How does that figure into your own plans to marry at some point in your life? All I'm saying is you're 21, stop worrying about marriage! You are the second one of my friends who I've had to tell to chill out about the marriage thing in recent weeks. So what if your friends are getting married? So what if your parents got married at 22? As someone else said, our generation is perfectly fine waiting til our 30s. As an avid S&TC fan, you should know that those girls don't consider a situation desperate til 35, so just sit back and enjoy the next 14 years.