How do you tell someone....
How do you tell someone that you aren't friends with them any more and haven't been since childhood? This girl I know, lets call her Edith... Well Edith acts like a child despite the fact she is 25. I believe she is mildly retarded or has an undiagnosed mental problem which is probable since she supposedly has a learning disability that her mother refused to treat saying "God will heal Edith of this problem". This girl has humiliated me in public on numerous occasions. The following list is just a short list of the problems:
1) She is immature for your age and burp in front of my adult friends (She did so in front of my friend Lisa and said "Mmmm I can taste this morning's orange juice.
2) She is a kleptomaniac and has stolen from me and my friends (She stole my friend Emily's Sunflower Perfume)
3) She humiliated me in public (I took her to the mall and this really cute guy started flirting with me so I subtle started flirting back and then she said "Just fuck her already" to the guy)
Yesterday I called to speak to her sister, who we shall call Gemma, and Edith answered the phone and refused to give it to her. Edith wanted to know if we were friends or not. I answered truthfully and said "I am sorry we aren't friends anymore.. We were as children but grew apart." Edith told me that did not answer her question though I was clear in what I said. I hate confrontations and not very good at being totally mean unless pushed to do so. I ended up hanging up on her and now I am debating whether I should to her home and tell her why we aren't friends. Is it mean to tell her, "You need to be in a group home with other people who cannot control their actions in public. You are a child mentally and my friends can't stand you. We were friends as children but the moment I hit teen years I saw you for what you are. The friends you introduced to me such as Lauren are now just friends with me because they feel the same way I do." Yes I know it is so no need to answer that.
I just don't know what to say to Edith and how to explain I haven't counted her as friends for years. She tells people I am her best friend and I just do that half smile and home that people realize that I am not. This problem is giving me a migraine headache and depressing me because I don't want to be cruel to someone that mentally behaves like a child claiming that there is a time and a place to behave as a child and a time and a place to behave as an adult. I am 28 and maintain an adult personality at all times. Sure I giggle around my friends when there is a joke but we don't act like teenagers because we passed that stage. HELP! What do I say to her so that I can make sure ending her thoughts of a non-existing friendship without ending my friendship with her sister at the same time?
1) She is immature for your age and burp in front of my adult friends (She did so in front of my friend Lisa and said "Mmmm I can taste this morning's orange juice.
2) She is a kleptomaniac and has stolen from me and my friends (She stole my friend Emily's Sunflower Perfume)
3) She humiliated me in public (I took her to the mall and this really cute guy started flirting with me so I subtle started flirting back and then she said "Just fuck her already" to the guy)
Yesterday I called to speak to her sister, who we shall call Gemma, and Edith answered the phone and refused to give it to her. Edith wanted to know if we were friends or not. I answered truthfully and said "I am sorry we aren't friends anymore.. We were as children but grew apart." Edith told me that did not answer her question though I was clear in what I said. I hate confrontations and not very good at being totally mean unless pushed to do so. I ended up hanging up on her and now I am debating whether I should to her home and tell her why we aren't friends. Is it mean to tell her, "You need to be in a group home with other people who cannot control their actions in public. You are a child mentally and my friends can't stand you. We were friends as children but the moment I hit teen years I saw you for what you are. The friends you introduced to me such as Lauren are now just friends with me because they feel the same way I do." Yes I know it is so no need to answer that.
I just don't know what to say to Edith and how to explain I haven't counted her as friends for years. She tells people I am her best friend and I just do that half smile and home that people realize that I am not. This problem is giving me a migraine headache and depressing me because I don't want to be cruel to someone that mentally behaves like a child claiming that there is a time and a place to behave as a child and a time and a place to behave as an adult. I am 28 and maintain an adult personality at all times. Sure I giggle around my friends when there is a joke but we don't act like teenagers because we passed that stage. HELP! What do I say to her so that I can make sure ending her thoughts of a non-existing friendship without ending my friendship with her sister at the same time?