17 things that no one (i.e. me) should settle for.
Somehow been feeling that #9 on this list is something that I should really be more aware of for myself, because I seem to have been having this feeling that some friendships that are important to me (or are my priorities) do not seem to reciprocate in the same way. Hence, it has resulted in me reflecting and thinking, "is this what I want for myself?"
I'm probably guilty of committing this deed myself too, and I told myself that I am not going to do that this year. Hence, if I even bother to contact you or stay in touch with you, it probably means that i still do care about you. If you don't hear from me - then sorry, you've gotten your answer.
Strangely, this feeling of "people walking on me, using me and letting me go when their needs are taken care of" doesn't seem to hurt or frustrate me as much as it would have a year or two ago. Even when I get this feeling/vibe from people whom I consider my closer friends. Especially when they do that when they are newly attached or in new relationships - of course, what else can it be that makes people become (slightly) estranged from their friends, right?
Does it mean that I have numbed myself after all these years of feeling like that?
Or is it an indication that I have seen through it all, and have learnt to let go of such things that upset myself and my life?
Coincidentally, a girlfriend posted this on fb a few days ago:
and it set me thinking: "is 7 really the magic number for all relationships, including friendships?" Because it seems that I am getting the above vibes from people whom I know for less than 7 years - and this is the 7th year mark.
But regardless of whatever the reason, I am not allowing myself to settle for anything less this coming year.
Because I know I deserve more.
I'm probably guilty of committing this deed myself too, and I told myself that I am not going to do that this year. Hence, if I even bother to contact you or stay in touch with you, it probably means that i still do care about you. If you don't hear from me - then sorry, you've gotten your answer.
Strangely, this feeling of "people walking on me, using me and letting me go when their needs are taken care of" doesn't seem to hurt or frustrate me as much as it would have a year or two ago. Even when I get this feeling/vibe from people whom I consider my closer friends. Especially when they do that when they are newly attached or in new relationships - of course, what else can it be that makes people become (slightly) estranged from their friends, right?
Does it mean that I have numbed myself after all these years of feeling like that?
Or is it an indication that I have seen through it all, and have learnt to let go of such things that upset myself and my life?
Coincidentally, a girlfriend posted this on fb a few days ago:
and it set me thinking: "is 7 really the magic number for all relationships, including friendships?" Because it seems that I am getting the above vibes from people whom I know for less than 7 years - and this is the 7th year mark.
But regardless of whatever the reason, I am not allowing myself to settle for anything less this coming year.
Because I know I deserve more.