Is it just me or ... ::'online dating' rant::
{*cross-posted from my MySpace account*}
Is it just me, or are almost all of the guys featured in the 'True.com' and 'Match.com' and various other 'online dating' advertisements - that basically saturate the frame of my MySpace account, and flash messages at me and attempt to make me believe that there is a guy on a webcam allowing himself to filmed while he types & reads a screen - ... is it me, or are most of these guys just totally NOT the type of guys that gals would actually want to meet?
Too muscley, mostly hairless & flat half-naked bodies, usually blank expressions of "I'm hawt. You know it. That's why I'm in this ad." egos .... I honestly do not want these guys. I usually have more repulsion for them than attraction, and I tend to scroll off to another part of my page screen in order that they are no longer visible to me. For goodness sakes already, guys... Put on a fun tee-shirt and SMILE! omg. ugh.
Granted, I went to Nerd School. We know this. We know that I'm the sort of girl who MUST absolutely have a guy be more than just muscle - he MUST be interesting & intelligent & quick-witted in addition to some general good looks and, ideally, good genetics.
I might be a bit 'old fashioned' and selfish in that respect, but I for one actually want my future children to be partially brought-about from "survival of the fittest" evolutionary ideals, and DAMMIT - I want a man with good genetics!!!! With a good brain and body!!! Not just eye-candy, not just nerd-smarts... A serving of both, pleeeeease.
I'm not looking for a boyfriend! I'm not looking for a sex toy! I'm not looking to have someone who purely satisfies my carnal physical urges, or seduces me with geek speak!
{.... although, the geek speak.... *shakes head out of fantasy* lol}
I seek a fun guy, a smart guy, a slightly-more-realistically-built-(physically) guy, who knows that muscle is great but not the sole reason I like him... who knows that it really is a wonderful thing to have a little bit of 'extra' padding 'cause it's nicer to hug something slightly soft versus solid chiseled forms.... HECK. I dunno. I guess this might just be me & my standards -- (Ladies, feel free to comment about this, whether you agree a bit, or disagree a bit... the fellas won't know unless we tell them, and vice versa) -- but...
Personally?
An easy genuine smile is worth so much more than trying to do your best 'blank/ cool' expression in your profile photo. Guys, Girls, anyone. If you can't smile, and PROVE IT to me in at least one photo, well... why in the hell am I going to want to care about you or ever want to me with you?
Smiles are the Light, in the Dark and in the Bright. Truly.
{yes, that's my own just-written-now quote, right there :D credit if used.}
*Take Note :: This is not a 'personal ad'. I am single, but I'm taking my Time finding someone. 'Finding' is the key word there. I am not on some desperate quest. I am not using MySpace or any online dating services in order that I should choose from a particular selection of guys and then decide I could be with that person.
I will find the person I want to stay with, even if that means they find me, but I am not currently actively seeking someone to fill a relationship gap in my Life.
FYI. You have been warned.
~
Is it just me, or are almost all of the guys featured in the 'True.com' and 'Match.com' and various other 'online dating' advertisements - that basically saturate the frame of my MySpace account, and flash messages at me and attempt to make me believe that there is a guy on a webcam allowing himself to filmed while he types & reads a screen - ... is it me, or are most of these guys just totally NOT the type of guys that gals would actually want to meet?
Too muscley, mostly hairless & flat half-naked bodies, usually blank expressions of "I'm hawt. You know it. That's why I'm in this ad." egos .... I honestly do not want these guys. I usually have more repulsion for them than attraction, and I tend to scroll off to another part of my page screen in order that they are no longer visible to me. For goodness sakes already, guys... Put on a fun tee-shirt and SMILE! omg. ugh.
Granted, I went to Nerd School. We know this. We know that I'm the sort of girl who MUST absolutely have a guy be more than just muscle - he MUST be interesting & intelligent & quick-witted in addition to some general good looks and, ideally, good genetics.
I might be a bit 'old fashioned' and selfish in that respect, but I for one actually want my future children to be partially brought-about from "survival of the fittest" evolutionary ideals, and DAMMIT - I want a man with good genetics!!!! With a good brain and body!!! Not just eye-candy, not just nerd-smarts... A serving of both, pleeeeease.
I'm not looking for a boyfriend! I'm not looking for a sex toy! I'm not looking to have someone who purely satisfies my carnal physical urges, or seduces me with geek speak!
{.... although, the geek speak.... *shakes head out of fantasy* lol}
I seek a fun guy, a smart guy, a slightly-more-realistically-built-(physically) guy, who knows that muscle is great but not the sole reason I like him... who knows that it really is a wonderful thing to have a little bit of 'extra' padding 'cause it's nicer to hug something slightly soft versus solid chiseled forms.... HECK. I dunno. I guess this might just be me & my standards -- (Ladies, feel free to comment about this, whether you agree a bit, or disagree a bit... the fellas won't know unless we tell them, and vice versa) -- but...
Personally?
An easy genuine smile is worth so much more than trying to do your best 'blank/ cool' expression in your profile photo. Guys, Girls, anyone. If you can't smile, and PROVE IT to me in at least one photo, well... why in the hell am I going to want to care about you or ever want to me with you?
Smiles are the Light, in the Dark and in the Bright. Truly.
{yes, that's my own just-written-now quote, right there :D credit if used.}
*Take Note :: This is not a 'personal ad'. I am single, but I'm taking my Time finding someone. 'Finding' is the key word there. I am not on some desperate quest. I am not using MySpace or any online dating services in order that I should choose from a particular selection of guys and then decide I could be with that person.
I will find the person I want to stay with, even if that means they find me, but I am not currently actively seeking someone to fill a relationship gap in my Life.
FYI. You have been warned.
~