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I've been putting this off all day.
Colleen's husband died in his sleep.
Yesterday he was complaining about not feeling well.
When Colleen woke up this morning at 6:30, she saw him in bed still and figured that he was going to take a sick day so she went back to sleep.
She woke several hours later at 10am and he was still in bed. When she looked closer at him, she noticed his eyes were open but wasn't responding. She said she touched him and his body was stiff and cold-ish and that one of his legs was hanging out of the bed.
She called 9-1-1, then called me because she had to tell someone.
Let me tell you...that was a shock to hear in my voicemail, then a secondary shock when I called Colleen back for clarification.
I told her that if she needed help with anything to let me know. I told her to make a list of all the people/companies she needed to contact to make it easier for her in making sure she gets everything done.
John will be cremated and at a later date, a memorial service for him. I'm still thinking about the smaller things they're involved with and what will change or be the same...but there's time to deal with that.
She feels she needs to keep things as usual/normal as possible. If that's going to work for her, I'm going to keep that up.
Saturday is our Church Thanksgiving dinner. She's going to stay the night and we will leave for church on Sunday and then she will go home.
She still plans to come down for us to go to Lora's for Thanksgiving. Might suggest she stay the night so that she doesn't have to drive home in the dark. That's what she said she's going to do this weekend.
Again, just playing this all by ear and remaining flexible to accommodate her and how she feels on any given day.
Colleen's husband died in his sleep.
Yesterday he was complaining about not feeling well.
When Colleen woke up this morning at 6:30, she saw him in bed still and figured that he was going to take a sick day so she went back to sleep.
She woke several hours later at 10am and he was still in bed. When she looked closer at him, she noticed his eyes were open but wasn't responding. She said she touched him and his body was stiff and cold-ish and that one of his legs was hanging out of the bed.
She called 9-1-1, then called me because she had to tell someone.
Let me tell you...that was a shock to hear in my voicemail, then a secondary shock when I called Colleen back for clarification.
I told her that if she needed help with anything to let me know. I told her to make a list of all the people/companies she needed to contact to make it easier for her in making sure she gets everything done.
John will be cremated and at a later date, a memorial service for him. I'm still thinking about the smaller things they're involved with and what will change or be the same...but there's time to deal with that.
She feels she needs to keep things as usual/normal as possible. If that's going to work for her, I'm going to keep that up.
Saturday is our Church Thanksgiving dinner. She's going to stay the night and we will leave for church on Sunday and then she will go home.
She still plans to come down for us to go to Lora's for Thanksgiving. Might suggest she stay the night so that she doesn't have to drive home in the dark. That's what she said she's going to do this weekend.
Again, just playing this all by ear and remaining flexible to accommodate her and how she feels on any given day.