More Magazine December 2013 - Life Consultation with Ohno Satoshi
Sage Ohno Satoshi answered some real-life problems from the magazine readers.
If you're a girl aged around late twenties, working, single, this article might be relevant to you. (It is to me!)
Let's take a look and listen to what Arashi's Leader had to say!!
[Let's do it the Satoshi way!]
Life Consultation seminar with Ohno Satoshi
「Let’s do it the Satoshi way」
The transcendental charm of Ohno Sensei who is like a sage. With a unique perspective and undiscriminating kindness, he will answer your problems!
Problem 1
I’m wondering whether I should change my job. I’m doing office administration job. It’s not that I hate it, but I don’t feel the passion to continue this job for a long time either, and the pay is also very low. This year I will turn thirty, it will be bad if I don’t make up my mind soon. (29 y.o., office worker)
If it were me, I would change my job. Even if you keep working in that company, nothing will change if you lack motivation. If you want to change, you’d better quit the job. For me, it’s impossible to do things that I feel not “interesting”. My job is not all fun either (laugh), but I continue doing it because it’s interesting. However, if you haven’t decided what you want to do next, why don’t you try to find the things you like in current company while saving some money?
Problem 2
I am quite shy with people. I can’t express myself well both in my workplace and in private, I can’t communicate well, I don’t even have friends that I can call comrades or to do things like girls gathering together. What should I do to be able to build a good relationship? (27 y.o., office worker)
I am also shy with people. However, in any situation, you can soon distinguish a person you might be compatible with. Go talk to that person first to release your nervousness. As long as you’ve decided the first topic to converse on, the rest will be okay.
Problem 3
Currently I’m experiencing a one-sided love. The guy I have feeling for is a herbivore type and a late bloomer, who gets caught up in his job and hobbies. He doesn’t invite me out and rarely answers my mail. However, when I ask him out, he always comes and we’ll be having good time. I don’t understand how he really feels at the moment…. (27 y.o., nurse)
Once he gets caught up in something, he will leave his girlfriend alone… It sounds exactly like someone (laugh). When a man is engrossed in something, it’s better to leave him alone. But if you leave it at that, as there will be no contact from him (laugh), the girl should keep on inviting him sometimes. Since you haven’t known much about each other, things cannot move further right? If you see a chance, invite him, meet up with him, talk to him to know what he’s thinking about. If you do that, you should be able to see some development.
Problem 4
I’m going to turn 29 soon. I want to get married immediately, but I don’t even have a boyfriend for the last five years. I’ve been looking to meet new people, attending get-together events such as drinking party or match up meeting, but I always strike out. What should I do so I can meet the right man? (28 y.o., public officer)
A meeting isn’t something that you need to pursue. If you focus too much on pursuing, you might lose sight of yourself, even if you do meet someone, it would bear no result or you’d feel like something isn’t going right. However, as a man, I don’t know why girls are so impatient. Love relationship or marriage shouldn’t be about the age. Even as you’re aging, you’ll still be popular if you’re a great woman. If you’re doing your best in your job and everything else, a wonderful meeting will surely appear by itself.
Problem 5
I’m not popular at all even though I’ve paid attention to my appearance and my inner side. When I find someone who I thought is a little nice, he isn’t interested in me at all. It looks like my feminine charm is lacking. What should I do to become a charming woman that can attract men? (26 y.o, caregiver)
Thinking too much about things like “popularity” or “feminine charm” is only going to put you down, don’t you think? Personal grooming is important, but I think men find women who always try to decorate themselves or to be what they’re not inside are tiring. Working in entertainment business, I’m receiving a lot of compliments and flatteries, but I always wonder whether they’re not all lies (laugh). Without minding about being liked, if you try to be more casual and easygoing, both you and others will also feel more comfortable.
Members’ opinion about Leader
Questions:
1. Do you have any problems in life or love that you’d like to consult with Ohno-san?
2. What kind of confidant do you think Ohno-san would be?
3. In the event that you’ve consulted Ohno-san before, how did you show your gratitude?
4. Are you the type of person that will be consulted about other people’s problems? Or are you the type who will consult about your own problems? Please tell us who confides to you the most and who do you confide to the most?
Sakurai
1. How to endure it when you’re so sleepy you can’t take it anymore? In times like meetings, Leader always looks so sleepy but he manages not to fall asleep. It is amazing how he can restrain himself just before the line (laugh).
2. Like a sage maybe!?
4. Sometimes my friends will confide to me, but I’m not the type to confide in others. Especially I won’t ever consult my problems to other members! (laugh)
Aiba
1. I want to go on a trip, is there a place you would recommend?
2. A person who would think of other’s problem as his own. He got so passionate when we went out to drink and talked about our jobs.
3. I will buy him souvenirs. Maybe a simple casual T-shirt like the ones he doesn’t buy will be good.
4. I’m not going to consult others. When I have problems, I will suffer and struggle earnestly (laugh).
Matsumoto
1. I want a new hobby. Please find a hobby that fits me.
2. A good listener. Because he won’t insist to offer his opinion, he’s perfect for those who need someone to listen.
3. I will rub his shoulders. I will cook him some meals. I will give him a fishing rod.
4. I have a certain friend to talk about important things with. But, rather than having consultation, maybe we will think about the problems together while having a meal.
Ninomiya
1. Of course that would be a love problem (laugh). I want Leader to explain about his view on love.
2. Wouldn’t it be like confiding to a relative?
3. I never consult him about anything (laugh).
4. I feel that you won’t move forward even if other people solve your problem, that’s why I basically don’t consult people. I also don’t feel like I have to solve everything, if I can’t solve it by myself, there’s nothing else I can do but to blame my lack of experience or skill, right.
If you're a girl aged around late twenties, working, single, this article might be relevant to you. (It is to me!)
Let's take a look and listen to what Arashi's Leader had to say!!
[Let's do it the Satoshi way!]
Life Consultation seminar with Ohno Satoshi
「Let’s do it the Satoshi way」
The transcendental charm of Ohno Sensei who is like a sage. With a unique perspective and undiscriminating kindness, he will answer your problems!
Problem 1
I’m wondering whether I should change my job. I’m doing office administration job. It’s not that I hate it, but I don’t feel the passion to continue this job for a long time either, and the pay is also very low. This year I will turn thirty, it will be bad if I don’t make up my mind soon. (29 y.o., office worker)
If it were me, I would change my job. Even if you keep working in that company, nothing will change if you lack motivation. If you want to change, you’d better quit the job. For me, it’s impossible to do things that I feel not “interesting”. My job is not all fun either (laugh), but I continue doing it because it’s interesting. However, if you haven’t decided what you want to do next, why don’t you try to find the things you like in current company while saving some money?
Problem 2
I am quite shy with people. I can’t express myself well both in my workplace and in private, I can’t communicate well, I don’t even have friends that I can call comrades or to do things like girls gathering together. What should I do to be able to build a good relationship? (27 y.o., office worker)
I am also shy with people. However, in any situation, you can soon distinguish a person you might be compatible with. Go talk to that person first to release your nervousness. As long as you’ve decided the first topic to converse on, the rest will be okay.
Problem 3
Currently I’m experiencing a one-sided love. The guy I have feeling for is a herbivore type and a late bloomer, who gets caught up in his job and hobbies. He doesn’t invite me out and rarely answers my mail. However, when I ask him out, he always comes and we’ll be having good time. I don’t understand how he really feels at the moment…. (27 y.o., nurse)
Once he gets caught up in something, he will leave his girlfriend alone… It sounds exactly like someone (laugh). When a man is engrossed in something, it’s better to leave him alone. But if you leave it at that, as there will be no contact from him (laugh), the girl should keep on inviting him sometimes. Since you haven’t known much about each other, things cannot move further right? If you see a chance, invite him, meet up with him, talk to him to know what he’s thinking about. If you do that, you should be able to see some development.
Problem 4
I’m going to turn 29 soon. I want to get married immediately, but I don’t even have a boyfriend for the last five years. I’ve been looking to meet new people, attending get-together events such as drinking party or match up meeting, but I always strike out. What should I do so I can meet the right man? (28 y.o., public officer)
A meeting isn’t something that you need to pursue. If you focus too much on pursuing, you might lose sight of yourself, even if you do meet someone, it would bear no result or you’d feel like something isn’t going right. However, as a man, I don’t know why girls are so impatient. Love relationship or marriage shouldn’t be about the age. Even as you’re aging, you’ll still be popular if you’re a great woman. If you’re doing your best in your job and everything else, a wonderful meeting will surely appear by itself.
Problem 5
I’m not popular at all even though I’ve paid attention to my appearance and my inner side. When I find someone who I thought is a little nice, he isn’t interested in me at all. It looks like my feminine charm is lacking. What should I do to become a charming woman that can attract men? (26 y.o, caregiver)
Thinking too much about things like “popularity” or “feminine charm” is only going to put you down, don’t you think? Personal grooming is important, but I think men find women who always try to decorate themselves or to be what they’re not inside are tiring. Working in entertainment business, I’m receiving a lot of compliments and flatteries, but I always wonder whether they’re not all lies (laugh). Without minding about being liked, if you try to be more casual and easygoing, both you and others will also feel more comfortable.
Members’ opinion about Leader
Questions:
1. Do you have any problems in life or love that you’d like to consult with Ohno-san?
2. What kind of confidant do you think Ohno-san would be?
3. In the event that you’ve consulted Ohno-san before, how did you show your gratitude?
4. Are you the type of person that will be consulted about other people’s problems? Or are you the type who will consult about your own problems? Please tell us who confides to you the most and who do you confide to the most?
Sakurai
1. How to endure it when you’re so sleepy you can’t take it anymore? In times like meetings, Leader always looks so sleepy but he manages not to fall asleep. It is amazing how he can restrain himself just before the line (laugh).
2. Like a sage maybe!?
4. Sometimes my friends will confide to me, but I’m not the type to confide in others. Especially I won’t ever consult my problems to other members! (laugh)
Aiba
1. I want to go on a trip, is there a place you would recommend?
2. A person who would think of other’s problem as his own. He got so passionate when we went out to drink and talked about our jobs.
3. I will buy him souvenirs. Maybe a simple casual T-shirt like the ones he doesn’t buy will be good.
4. I’m not going to consult others. When I have problems, I will suffer and struggle earnestly (laugh).
Matsumoto
1. I want a new hobby. Please find a hobby that fits me.
2. A good listener. Because he won’t insist to offer his opinion, he’s perfect for those who need someone to listen.
3. I will rub his shoulders. I will cook him some meals. I will give him a fishing rod.
4. I have a certain friend to talk about important things with. But, rather than having consultation, maybe we will think about the problems together while having a meal.
Ninomiya
1. Of course that would be a love problem (laugh). I want Leader to explain about his view on love.
2. Wouldn’t it be like confiding to a relative?
3. I never consult him about anything (laugh).
4. I feel that you won’t move forward even if other people solve your problem, that’s why I basically don’t consult people. I also don’t feel like I have to solve everything, if I can’t solve it by myself, there’s nothing else I can do but to blame my lack of experience or skill, right.