Another Old Fart
I have a few entries that discusses how I always have old guys hitting on me. It's rarely the young, good looking ones.
There is this one guy I work with that has always been really nice. He's the type that can strike up small chit chat on a whim. He seems to generally be in a good mood. He doesn't mind helping when he is sent to other parts of the store.
Not long ago he helped me when I was shopping for a reel for my dad. Later on he asked how it worked out. Since then he's struck up a few other friendly small talk conversation. Nothing out of the ordinary for him. I haven't very many hours in a while so I haven't seen him much until I worked with him the other day. I had the major disaster area of the floor and he was walking by to put something up in team sports. He did his usual "heyyy, how are ya". He went in for a hug too. This part is unusual for him as far as I know. He's never hugged me and I haven't ever seen him hug anyone else in the store (not to say he hasn't).
Anyways, immediately I felt warning bells and red flags. Honestly, I don't think was so much of the hug, but more about the way he hugged. He didn't go in for the 'one armed hug around the shoulders'....nope...instead, he went in for the one armed hug around the waist. Even though it was a matter of seconds in reality, but he did one of those lingering gestures too. Make sense? Yes..no..maybe? What I mean by that is, it wasn't like he went in for a waist hug and right back out, but a "im going to momentarily let my hand sit on the waste and slowly slide way" thing.
Then to further the bells and flags... some how school was brought up. I said to him I was done for the semester and then I in the fall I will only have one class left. He then says, "whooo! not only are you pretty, but you're smart too."
Those two things combined made it highly unsual for him. I don't want to turn a simple compliment into anything if it wasn't meant to be anything, but at the same time my gut was telling me otherwise. I told K about it right after...then Wednesday night we had a meeting about different policy stuff. One topic in the brochure included sexual harrassment. I hope K hadn't mentioned it to any of the managers because I don't want to get the guy in trouble of he truly meant no harm.
It partially reminds me of kids being spanked at Walmart (or any public place). Sometimes a kid needs a spanking while in public. When they get one, the parents are accused of abuse rather than disciplining. The action gets taken out of context. Same thing with what he said. Maybe he meant it one way and didn't even think about how it would sound....on the other hand, what if he DID mean for it to sound the way I took it (that plus the weird hug).
I'm not sure how old he is, but wayyyy older for sure. *sigh* I still don't get why.
There is this one guy I work with that has always been really nice. He's the type that can strike up small chit chat on a whim. He seems to generally be in a good mood. He doesn't mind helping when he is sent to other parts of the store.
Not long ago he helped me when I was shopping for a reel for my dad. Later on he asked how it worked out. Since then he's struck up a few other friendly small talk conversation. Nothing out of the ordinary for him. I haven't very many hours in a while so I haven't seen him much until I worked with him the other day. I had the major disaster area of the floor and he was walking by to put something up in team sports. He did his usual "heyyy, how are ya". He went in for a hug too. This part is unusual for him as far as I know. He's never hugged me and I haven't ever seen him hug anyone else in the store (not to say he hasn't).
Anyways, immediately I felt warning bells and red flags. Honestly, I don't think was so much of the hug, but more about the way he hugged. He didn't go in for the 'one armed hug around the shoulders'....nope...instead, he went in for the one armed hug around the waist. Even though it was a matter of seconds in reality, but he did one of those lingering gestures too. Make sense? Yes..no..maybe? What I mean by that is, it wasn't like he went in for a waist hug and right back out, but a "im going to momentarily let my hand sit on the waste and slowly slide way" thing.
Then to further the bells and flags... some how school was brought up. I said to him I was done for the semester and then I in the fall I will only have one class left. He then says, "whooo! not only are you pretty, but you're smart too."
Those two things combined made it highly unsual for him. I don't want to turn a simple compliment into anything if it wasn't meant to be anything, but at the same time my gut was telling me otherwise. I told K about it right after...then Wednesday night we had a meeting about different policy stuff. One topic in the brochure included sexual harrassment. I hope K hadn't mentioned it to any of the managers because I don't want to get the guy in trouble of he truly meant no harm.
It partially reminds me of kids being spanked at Walmart (or any public place). Sometimes a kid needs a spanking while in public. When they get one, the parents are accused of abuse rather than disciplining. The action gets taken out of context. Same thing with what he said. Maybe he meant it one way and didn't even think about how it would sound....on the other hand, what if he DID mean for it to sound the way I took it (that plus the weird hug).
I'm not sure how old he is, but wayyyy older for sure. *sigh* I still don't get why.