My Attempt to define love.
I’ll attempt to answer one of the most debated topics that ever existed in our society. Ironically, it is also known to be one of the most popular entries in an autograph: Define Love.
I remember that during my younger days, I would write synonyms such as affection, passion, etc. to give an impression that I am profound. Thinking about it now, it was plain stupidity.
So what is love?
The psychologist Sternberg defined it to be the relationship structure that upholds three dimensions: intimacy, commitment and passion, which is also knows as consummate love.
Children may just be too naïve to understand and simply define it to be blind.
Musicians may say that it is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever.
Mark Twain even defines it as the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
Obviously, no one has ever captured the true essence of love, and I doubt anyone will ever. Love is all about the heart. Once you use your mind… that is not love. That is rationalization. While the above definitions try to rationalize what it is, and give all these highfalutin flowery words, I choose to give in to my emotions and surrender to it.
Yes. Surrender. That is how I want to define love.
I surrender to pain.
I know that I feel love when I give up all my fears and anxieties, because no matter the amount of pain, it is worth it.
I surrender my security.
I know that I feel love when I surrender safety and give up security and choose the unsecured. I surrender to the unknown.
I surrender myself.
I know that I feel love when I surrender my selfishness and do everything for another person/ or a task unconditionally.
I surrender…
So how do I want to define it?
Love is a complete surrender to fate and to the true essence of a heart.
I remember that during my younger days, I would write synonyms such as affection, passion, etc. to give an impression that I am profound. Thinking about it now, it was plain stupidity.
So what is love?
The psychologist Sternberg defined it to be the relationship structure that upholds three dimensions: intimacy, commitment and passion, which is also knows as consummate love.
Children may just be too naïve to understand and simply define it to be blind.
Musicians may say that it is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever.
Mark Twain even defines it as the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
Obviously, no one has ever captured the true essence of love, and I doubt anyone will ever. Love is all about the heart. Once you use your mind… that is not love. That is rationalization. While the above definitions try to rationalize what it is, and give all these highfalutin flowery words, I choose to give in to my emotions and surrender to it.
Yes. Surrender. That is how I want to define love.
I surrender to pain.
I know that I feel love when I give up all my fears and anxieties, because no matter the amount of pain, it is worth it.
I surrender my security.
I know that I feel love when I surrender safety and give up security and choose the unsecured. I surrender to the unknown.
I surrender myself.
I know that I feel love when I surrender my selfishness and do everything for another person/ or a task unconditionally.
I surrender…
So how do I want to define it?
Love is a complete surrender to fate and to the true essence of a heart.