Situation: Under Control
As you can tell from previous post: things were NOT so good earlier. To the point where we split up for a whole 24 hours. (and if you know us, we are FAR from the "make up break up" couple. We hardly EVER play that game. I'd say in the 4 years we've been together, we've done this MAYBE 2 other times.
It basically boiled down to us taking eachother for granted. He doesnt appreciate the things I try to do for him. Like trying to find him a new job to make him happier at work. Or heck, I dont know, PLANNING OUR WEDDING. Ex: The other day we ran into a friend we hadnt seen in 2 years (that we used to hang out with, ALOT). We talked to him for a good 20 min to half an hour. You would think in that time, the fact that we are going to be spending the rest of our lives together WOULD have come up. Matt didnt mention it once! I had to explain to him this is not phantom of the opera so this is not a secret engagement. He tried to tell me "its hard for him to be excited about making big public announcments about our private lives like that". Then please tell me why we are having a wedding to get married in front of all our family and friends? How much does that make sense?
And I take him for granted with financial obligations and thinking that he is always going to say how high when I say jump. Basically I always expected him to pay for things, and got a bit pissy when he would argue with me about things I liked.
we discussed things all night (Including the fact that I will NOT, under ANY circumstance, live in his mothers house for 1 more year. We will be out by xmas, be it house or apartment.) and like he needs to be more open to life changes (ie: buying that house or renting that apartment), and he needs to show more enthusiasm when it comes to our life changes (ie: marriage)
So as for now, there is no reason to cancel wedding plans, but I do think Im going to relax on them a little.
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On a side note: I had a visit from Aunt Flo like a week ago (due to the morning after pill) and today, I feel like my uterus is going to fall out.
2 periods in one month is just too much.
*at least thats what I hope it is* *prays for no baby!*
It basically boiled down to us taking eachother for granted. He doesnt appreciate the things I try to do for him. Like trying to find him a new job to make him happier at work. Or heck, I dont know, PLANNING OUR WEDDING. Ex: The other day we ran into a friend we hadnt seen in 2 years (that we used to hang out with, ALOT). We talked to him for a good 20 min to half an hour. You would think in that time, the fact that we are going to be spending the rest of our lives together WOULD have come up. Matt didnt mention it once! I had to explain to him this is not phantom of the opera so this is not a secret engagement. He tried to tell me "its hard for him to be excited about making big public announcments about our private lives like that". Then please tell me why we are having a wedding to get married in front of all our family and friends? How much does that make sense?
And I take him for granted with financial obligations and thinking that he is always going to say how high when I say jump. Basically I always expected him to pay for things, and got a bit pissy when he would argue with me about things I liked.
we discussed things all night (Including the fact that I will NOT, under ANY circumstance, live in his mothers house for 1 more year. We will be out by xmas, be it house or apartment.) and like he needs to be more open to life changes (ie: buying that house or renting that apartment), and he needs to show more enthusiasm when it comes to our life changes (ie: marriage)
So as for now, there is no reason to cancel wedding plans, but I do think Im going to relax on them a little.
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On a side note: I had a visit from Aunt Flo like a week ago (due to the morning after pill) and today, I feel like my uterus is going to fall out.
2 periods in one month is just too much.
*at least thats what I hope it is* *prays for no baby!*