Re-boot of blog
Hey.
So. Right then. I am alive.
Short summary. Lost my job a year ago. Have had various temp assignments since then. Nothing permanent. It is very annoying. I am so sick and tired of not working. I am going to re-start this journal in the hopes that I can snap myself out of some part of the depression I am dealing with.
As always, I am not going to comment on anything that I would not discuss in a real time private conversation so obviously some things are just off limits. LJ is good for venting but somethings... you know.
Anyway. For right now, we are not going to talk about me. We are instead going to talk about my eldest daughter and her "love life".
So. Last week was the first real Dance that lili was asked to. By a boy. Named Andre. It is all sweet and innocent. At the dance Andre asked Lili to be his girlfriend. Lili said "o, not until I ask my daddy." It's the small things like that which let me know I am doing a good job raising her. So we talk and lay down some ground rules. No kissing. Holding hands is Ok. Group activities is good. Anytime we are doing something as a family Andre is welcome to come with us. No doing anything unsupervised until she is 16. Solo dating is simply not an option until then. With those rules set, permission was given and on Monday Lili officially became Andre's girlfriend. :) So cute!
Now begins the drama. One of Lili's friends has realized that if Lili spends time with Andre and his friends that means less time spent with her (note: Lili is not ignoring friends but trying to juggle everyone). Jealousy over Andre the boy that is taking a friend away from her set in. Thus today the classic ultimatum was issued. "If you sit with him at lunch, talk to him, or hang out with him, then I won't be your friend any more."
Lili is really kind of devastated by this. She has never had to deal with this kind of thing before. Until know all things social have been second nature and have always rolled as critical successes. This did give me the chance to impart wise and sage parental advice. A) This is only the first time. This will happen again. B) Make sure that you NEVER ignore your friends because of a boy. No boy is worth pushing people who care about you away. C) You can only control your own actions. If you are doing your best to be the other girl's friend then that is all you can do. D) If she is a really good friend she will get over it because she want's you to be happy. If not then she wasn't a very good friend. Better to find that out now.
Updates on drama as they occur.
So. Right then. I am alive.
Short summary. Lost my job a year ago. Have had various temp assignments since then. Nothing permanent. It is very annoying. I am so sick and tired of not working. I am going to re-start this journal in the hopes that I can snap myself out of some part of the depression I am dealing with.
As always, I am not going to comment on anything that I would not discuss in a real time private conversation so obviously some things are just off limits. LJ is good for venting but somethings... you know.
Anyway. For right now, we are not going to talk about me. We are instead going to talk about my eldest daughter and her "love life".
So. Last week was the first real Dance that lili was asked to. By a boy. Named Andre. It is all sweet and innocent. At the dance Andre asked Lili to be his girlfriend. Lili said "o, not until I ask my daddy." It's the small things like that which let me know I am doing a good job raising her. So we talk and lay down some ground rules. No kissing. Holding hands is Ok. Group activities is good. Anytime we are doing something as a family Andre is welcome to come with us. No doing anything unsupervised until she is 16. Solo dating is simply not an option until then. With those rules set, permission was given and on Monday Lili officially became Andre's girlfriend. :) So cute!
Now begins the drama. One of Lili's friends has realized that if Lili spends time with Andre and his friends that means less time spent with her (note: Lili is not ignoring friends but trying to juggle everyone). Jealousy over Andre the boy that is taking a friend away from her set in. Thus today the classic ultimatum was issued. "If you sit with him at lunch, talk to him, or hang out with him, then I won't be your friend any more."
Lili is really kind of devastated by this. She has never had to deal with this kind of thing before. Until know all things social have been second nature and have always rolled as critical successes. This did give me the chance to impart wise and sage parental advice. A) This is only the first time. This will happen again. B) Make sure that you NEVER ignore your friends because of a boy. No boy is worth pushing people who care about you away. C) You can only control your own actions. If you are doing your best to be the other girl's friend then that is all you can do. D) If she is a really good friend she will get over it because she want's you to be happy. If not then she wasn't a very good friend. Better to find that out now.
Updates on drama as they occur.