self-esteem
self-esteem...
self-esteem issues - i think most of us do suffer from it - esp. now with resolutions and stuff...
with my mom and people around me - i've had shitty self-esteem cuz mom always keep telling me i'm not skinny enough and even now after loosing weight, she still makes comments how my waist.tummy/love-handles are now bigger than before i lost the weight... i dunno if she's blind or just that nothing i do ever good enough... comparing me to my family members with their achievements (it makes me feel like a bloody failure) so here's to hoping doing the following list will make me feel better.
hun - can u fill it out for me? and either send back to me in email or just post the comment.
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Most people feel bad about themselves from time to time. Temporary feelings of low self-esteem may be triggered by being treated poorly by someone else recently or in the past, or by a person's own judgments of him or herself. Low self-esteem is a constant companion for too many people, especially those who experience depression. If you go through life feeling bad about yourself needlessly, low self-esteem keeps you from enjoying life, doing the things you want to do, and working toward personal goals.
To improve your self-image, try making lists, rereading them often, and rewriting them from time to time. The process will help you to feel better about yourself. If you have a journal, you can write your
lists there. If you don't, any piece of paper will do.
Make a list of :
* At least 5 of your strengths
--creativity, openess, positivity& optimism (they are lacking currently), adaptability, outgoing, generosity, caring, humour, being able to laugh about myself and situations, being there for others
* At least 5 things you admire about yourself
--drive & ambition, being active, always up for a challenge, willing to try new things, fast-thinker, determination, always try to have fun,
* The 5 greatest achievements in your life so far (4/5)
--getting my college diploma, loosing weight and maintaining it (highest 195lbs, haven't been that high in like 4 years), try to live life without regret,
* At least 20 other accomplishments (16/20)
--quitting smoking, finishing high school, striving to be always active, having true friends that will be there when i need them, getting a job in my field a month after completion, learning how to snowboard, meeting jan & having been together 2+ years, learning how to drive, getting back into car and driving after accidents, being able to work with kids, getting my bronze duke and silver duke (i've completed my gold, i need to get that damn log in), learning dragon-boating!, having some success in dboating, learning to play vball, being able to meet people easily, being strong in the past.
* 10 ways you can "treat" or reward yourself that don't include food and that don't cost anything (6/10) - i dunno but this one is kinda hard...
--going for a hike/walk, trying on smaller sized clothes, catching up with friends, taking pictures, sleep, just sit and daydream,
* 10 things you can do to make yourself laugh (9/10)
--having jo moments, being goofy, think of jan, acting silly, reading jokes, reading stuff on the internet, looking at old pictures, talk to friends, watch comedies,
* 10 things you could do to help someone else (6/10)
--help out a neighbor by shovelling snow, donate clothing to a shelter, donate $ to a charity, volunteer, listen to them, Smile
* Things that you do that make you feel good about yourself (4/)
-- working out at the gym, playing vball, think positive, be optimistc, smile, laugh, think about good times,
self-esteem issues - i think most of us do suffer from it - esp. now with resolutions and stuff...
with my mom and people around me - i've had shitty self-esteem cuz mom always keep telling me i'm not skinny enough and even now after loosing weight, she still makes comments how my waist.tummy/love-handles are now bigger than before i lost the weight... i dunno if she's blind or just that nothing i do ever good enough... comparing me to my family members with their achievements (it makes me feel like a bloody failure) so here's to hoping doing the following list will make me feel better.
hun - can u fill it out for me? and either send back to me in email or just post the comment.
>>
Most people feel bad about themselves from time to time. Temporary feelings of low self-esteem may be triggered by being treated poorly by someone else recently or in the past, or by a person's own judgments of him or herself. Low self-esteem is a constant companion for too many people, especially those who experience depression. If you go through life feeling bad about yourself needlessly, low self-esteem keeps you from enjoying life, doing the things you want to do, and working toward personal goals.
To improve your self-image, try making lists, rereading them often, and rewriting them from time to time. The process will help you to feel better about yourself. If you have a journal, you can write your
lists there. If you don't, any piece of paper will do.
Make a list of :
* At least 5 of your strengths
--creativity, openess, positivity& optimism (they are lacking currently), adaptability, outgoing, generosity, caring, humour, being able to laugh about myself and situations, being there for others
* At least 5 things you admire about yourself
--drive & ambition, being active, always up for a challenge, willing to try new things, fast-thinker, determination, always try to have fun,
* The 5 greatest achievements in your life so far (4/5)
--getting my college diploma, loosing weight and maintaining it (highest 195lbs, haven't been that high in like 4 years), try to live life without regret,
* At least 20 other accomplishments (16/20)
--quitting smoking, finishing high school, striving to be always active, having true friends that will be there when i need them, getting a job in my field a month after completion, learning how to snowboard, meeting jan & having been together 2+ years, learning how to drive, getting back into car and driving after accidents, being able to work with kids, getting my bronze duke and silver duke (i've completed my gold, i need to get that damn log in), learning dragon-boating!, having some success in dboating, learning to play vball, being able to meet people easily, being strong in the past.
* 10 ways you can "treat" or reward yourself that don't include food and that don't cost anything (6/10) - i dunno but this one is kinda hard...
--going for a hike/walk, trying on smaller sized clothes, catching up with friends, taking pictures, sleep, just sit and daydream,
* 10 things you can do to make yourself laugh (9/10)
--having jo moments, being goofy, think of jan, acting silly, reading jokes, reading stuff on the internet, looking at old pictures, talk to friends, watch comedies,
* 10 things you could do to help someone else (6/10)
--help out a neighbor by shovelling snow, donate clothing to a shelter, donate $ to a charity, volunteer, listen to them, Smile
* Things that you do that make you feel good about yourself (4/)
-- working out at the gym, playing vball, think positive, be optimistc, smile, laugh, think about good times,