Futile Thoughts.

[silent_revery]

This idea that people can find happiness from the presence or interaction with other people, really makes me feel uncomfortable at times. Imagine how empowered we could be if we truly disconnected from the need, or addiction to ‘people’ in our lives.

We could become distant beacons for each other. Perpetually evolving and reaching higher states;

Comments

[almerie]

I had so much to say whilst I was reading this and now I've come to the end I've forgotten most of it. I don't believe what you said about complacency/just to feel a sense of validation is true, not true love anyway. In some cases, sure, but I don't believe in staying with someone just because you feel comfortable (for myself, I understand why others do and I stayed in a bad relationship because I was in a terrible way myself but never again). And I don't believe in sex just being about a 'need' for sexual gratification. Maybe for the majority, but I don't believe it is that if you have real love for the person, and I don't really know how to explain that without sounding corny. And my idea of the concept love when I refer to it isn't the 'love' that most people express for each other within a few weeks.

I don't know about the spiritual side without the sexual side because ultimately, as a biological species that's what we're about! I know Christian people who abstain but I don't believe it gives them the ability to judge or have any kind of 'higher' connection because usually (in the case of the people I'm referring to) they end up getting married a lot faster than they normally would just so they can have sex.

And no, I think often people in relationships don't challenge each other but I think ideally they should be constantly challenging each other's ideas and 'selves' as people.

[silent_revery]

=) mmm... I would like to think so too.

[silent_revery]

Hmm... Yeah I don't feel there is a right or wrong answer to any of it, its just interesting. And it does really depend on the person / persons.

Ultimately I suppose if the persons involved are happy, the nuances of their motivation / the reason they do things at all is essentially irrelevant.

I would like to believe in true love, or at least a pure love without ulterior motive or expectation, but its hard, as everyone seems to want or need something from the ones they love. Perhaps need and want have a place in love? I'm not sure.