What I've learned over Christmas break...
Since I don't have as many distractions at home than I do at school, I've been doing some thinking (scary I know). I've just realized how much everyone has changed... for the better and for worse... with all of us going our separate ways with college. Maybe I was fooling myself that everything was going to be sunshine and roses and nothing would change. But SO much has changed with all of us. With most it has been for the better, we've realized that even with the distance between us we could still be the best friends we always were. I think college has actually strenghtened a great deal of my friendships... I guess what they say is right that you find out who your real friends are when you go away to college. I've found a new hobby of writing letters which is so much fun... honestly you should try it! I've stayed in touch with some people that I never thought I would, but I'm glad that I have. It's like everyone has certain types of friends:
1)There are a few people who will always be friends no matter what. I mean they've already been penciled in for each others weddings
2)Then there's those few that you never thought you'd stay friends with, but they put the effort in. You're flattered in most cases and try to keep the friendship too but it's not as strong.
3)Then in the final case you are the one trying to keep a friendship that the other person doesn't put the same kind of effort into as you do.
The third kind has been the one I've been thinking about the most lately and I've realized it's the one that hurts the most too. There are definitely a few people that college has just added to the break that was put into our friendship senior year. I guess I was kidding myself that college would help some realize the friendships they had at home were more than they gave credit to. I know that I've been taken for granted more than once... Old trusty Danielle... kick her down, stomp on her, and she'll still be there for when you need her, but don't worry about when she's hurting and needs you. I think I finally have gotten to that point where I don't care and I won't be there for those who treat me like that. I just don't know why it took me so long... so to those who have decided that our friendship isn't worth their time... guess what??! I'm done... it's not worth my time anymore either! I hope you look back someday and realize what you've given up because I can't do this to myself anymore... have a lovely break :)
1)There are a few people who will always be friends no matter what. I mean they've already been penciled in for each others weddings
2)Then there's those few that you never thought you'd stay friends with, but they put the effort in. You're flattered in most cases and try to keep the friendship too but it's not as strong.
3)Then in the final case you are the one trying to keep a friendship that the other person doesn't put the same kind of effort into as you do.
The third kind has been the one I've been thinking about the most lately and I've realized it's the one that hurts the most too. There are definitely a few people that college has just added to the break that was put into our friendship senior year. I guess I was kidding myself that college would help some realize the friendships they had at home were more than they gave credit to. I know that I've been taken for granted more than once... Old trusty Danielle... kick her down, stomp on her, and she'll still be there for when you need her, but don't worry about when she's hurting and needs you. I think I finally have gotten to that point where I don't care and I won't be there for those who treat me like that. I just don't know why it took me so long... so to those who have decided that our friendship isn't worth their time... guess what??! I'm done... it's not worth my time anymore either! I hope you look back someday and realize what you've given up because I can't do this to myself anymore... have a lovely break :)