on intoxication and sex
It was said the other day, by a young man near me, that he would not begin sexual congress with a woman who was intoxicated [if they hadn't come to some kind of agreement previously].
While this is a quite helpful stage of thought for a young man to progress through, I must emphasise the progressing through part of it. I myself used to feel along the same lines, and while on the face of it, it seems a noble principle, I believe it to be totally socially unhelpful.
As an idealistic young man, my reasons were twofold. One, out of respect for the woman, being that she is not currently in her right mind, which leads to two: I wanted her to want me, and if she wasn't in her right mind, she couldn't. Both reasons wholly egotistical, but the second much more so.
Let me speak plainly. I have, on occasion, gotten drunk so I could go out and try to pick up. I know others also go out and drink for this reason. To deny them is to deny myself.
That will not be compelling for most. Try this:
I find it completely socially irresponsible to remove from someone the ability to accept the consequences of their actions. I find it disrespectful to the potential woman to suggest that she not know what she's doing, or that she's incapable of accepting the outcome. Certainly there are exceptions, as there are to every rule, and my judgement is always final.
But in a young, inexperienced male, it is probably better he be desirous of not acting in ways beyond his understanding.
While this is a quite helpful stage of thought for a young man to progress through, I must emphasise the progressing through part of it. I myself used to feel along the same lines, and while on the face of it, it seems a noble principle, I believe it to be totally socially unhelpful.
As an idealistic young man, my reasons were twofold. One, out of respect for the woman, being that she is not currently in her right mind, which leads to two: I wanted her to want me, and if she wasn't in her right mind, she couldn't. Both reasons wholly egotistical, but the second much more so.
Let me speak plainly. I have, on occasion, gotten drunk so I could go out and try to pick up. I know others also go out and drink for this reason. To deny them is to deny myself.
That will not be compelling for most. Try this:
I find it completely socially irresponsible to remove from someone the ability to accept the consequences of their actions. I find it disrespectful to the potential woman to suggest that she not know what she's doing, or that she's incapable of accepting the outcome. Certainly there are exceptions, as there are to every rule, and my judgement is always final.
But in a young, inexperienced male, it is probably better he be desirous of not acting in ways beyond his understanding.