A friend and I
My life is sometimes about trying to get the things done I need to get done, & the things I want to get done & helping friends too. I have been helping several friends who have been having all types of problems. Two of my friends have had to send their sons to their father's home (and one of the fathers is a widow) because they both work full-time & can not take care of their sons; one of the women works odd hours an long hours (works at a hotel, often the night shift). I have given these two mothers some help and some cash to help them out; and another of my friends has not been able to pay their rent for over a year so I have been paying it for her. Yet another of my friends who lives in S.F. has been suicidal and calls me (often crying or very depressed) and wants to talk for a long time (sometimes more than an hour). Two of my guy friends, one in LA & one in Chicago are going through very ruff times. My Chicago friend (one of my semi-famous friends) is going through a divorce, & they have kids, and his wife wants custody but so does he, so he (my friend) is very upset about this. My LA friend is in more than one legal battle & can use some help (can't we all!) and he is a lot like me (IMO) which is part of the reason we became friends (common beliefs, goals & he has a sport bike too) and I wish I was able to help him more but their is not much I can do since I am not a lawyer. But I have listened to him when he wanted to talk (if I could) and I don't mind helping him because he has helped me a lot, with my moving & other things. One of my good friends was going through a hard time a few months back and freaked out on me; she had often helped me in the past when I needed a friend but at this time she is still not talking to me, and she might never again which I think is a shame, for both of us. Things are really good for me right now, I don't need much help (I almost wrote I don't need any help) and I hope I can pay her back someday... but her 'freak-out' might have permanently changed the way she views me... which makes me think of another person I know who had a stroke & now they are not the same person, but that is a story for another day.
To show you some of the stuff in my life I share this with you:
Here is a edited (& slightly changed) letter I just wrote to one of my friends:
Dear XXXXXX,
Thanks for the up-date.
I hope you feel good today & I hope you recover quickly. I always liked your eyes, & I didn't notice XXXX the last time I saw you; was I just not paying close enough attention or did your XXXXXX problems start after I saw you? I remember once long ago I told you that when I look at you I often think of the "Cat People" movie and you said, yeah, because XXXXXXXXX! LOL - but you were right at least a little, and your eyes are "cat-like", and you look a little like Nastassja Kinski!
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0083722/
http://armstrong.bluestones.org/images/nkinski01.jpg
I hope to see you in XXXX or XXXX (or both).
- Do you know when & where you will XXXXXX?
The XXXXXX bill came today.
- You owe me $XXXXXX by 02/XX/2007.
- Please pay me on time because [blah blah blah deleted].
I hope your court stuff goes well (& you get a large settlement from [ex friend]) - keep me updated.
BTW, I would like to share a few more things with you &/or to tell you some things:
As I told you before, I think you have been a good mother. Sure, you made some choices that didn't turn out so great... you (& I) have had some hard times. Had you made other choices MAYBE you would be more comfortable now, and maybe you would be LESS happy... or paralyzed from neck down because of a motorcycle accident or having fall down the stairs of the mansion you could have owned in Evanston, or maybe your son would now be a junkie... you do not know what "would have happened if ______" - so it does no good to feel bad about your past choices; but you should try to learn from your past experience {those who do not remember (& learn from) the past are doomed to repeat the mistakes}.
I like you. For the most part, I like how you have treated me. No you have not always treated me the way I wanted, but I am sure you (& others) could say the same to me.
You & I "go way back" - we have been through a lot together. I will be your friend forever. I hope you want to be my friend. I know I have helped you a lot in the past & you have been there for me too.
The last two times I was in XXXXXX you were a good listener, a good sign - it proves to me you do care about me. I care about you & I hope you will continue to listen to me. I will do my best to listen to you as well.
The pay at [where she works now] is not great, it kinda sucks even, but it could be a step to something better. Are you still working there? Look again at the photo-copy I sent - you would be great at the "Container Store" & as a dealer at a casino (BIG tips!). Starbucks could be good to you too. "Whole Foods Market" (rated #5 in best companies to work for, just behind the "Container Store") could be a good career move, and I bet you would save on food for [your son]!
I think it is important that you "plan for the future" if you can.
I know you know this, just reminding you &/or typing to make myself happy ( just kidding, I hope ;) but I am pretty sure your life will be easier in the future if you can find a "career path" that you can go down for a long time to come - to give you some financially stability.
I want to talk to you about a few more things: about working with X & X and their [biz] in [place], about if you would consider moving to XXX or another country, and other things...
One more thing I want to say/type now, it seems every time I come over the TV is on in front of your bed & in your son's room too... it seems not a good thing for a number of reasons, one being if you are short on money maybe you should turn the TVs off to save electricity &/or sell the TVs! My mom never let me & my brothers watch more than a few hours of TV each week, and I am glad for that... although we can learn a lot on some good programs, and enjoy a good movie for fun, we can also waste a lot of time & our brains on TV and Video/computer games [a small/bad joke was here] but I hope you see my points (& not the ones on my head).
That is enough for now!
- ttyl/Soon!
Sighris
p.s. I love you and have faith in you.
- hang in their XXXX ( no pun intended... well, maybe a little [my dear]! ;)
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Thank Eris & the other godz my life is going better than ever!!!
And their is some good news, one of my good friends (who has also helped me) got a new & better job! Other of my friends are doing good too. And two of my friends are pregnant! - read about it on their LJ's & send them congratz!
So what the hell is new with you?
- Let me know if you want me to know because I don't have time enough to read all of my friend's LJs & all the emails I get, and... well, that is enough complaining, you get the idea I am sure.
So what the hell ~is~ new with you? (excuse the non-Eprime)
To show you some of the stuff in my life I share this with you:
Here is a edited (& slightly changed) letter I just wrote to one of my friends:
Dear XXXXXX,
Thanks for the up-date.
I hope you feel good today & I hope you recover quickly. I always liked your eyes, & I didn't notice XXXX the last time I saw you; was I just not paying close enough attention or did your XXXXXX problems start after I saw you? I remember once long ago I told you that when I look at you I often think of the "Cat People" movie and you said, yeah, because XXXXXXXXX! LOL - but you were right at least a little, and your eyes are "cat-like", and you look a little like Nastassja Kinski!
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0083722/
http://armstrong.bluestones.org/images/nkinski01.jpg
I hope to see you in XXXX or XXXX (or both).
- Do you know when & where you will XXXXXX?
The XXXXXX bill came today.
- You owe me $XXXXXX by 02/XX/2007.
- Please pay me on time because [blah blah blah deleted].
I hope your court stuff goes well (& you get a large settlement from [ex friend]) - keep me updated.
BTW, I would like to share a few more things with you &/or to tell you some things:
As I told you before, I think you have been a good mother. Sure, you made some choices that didn't turn out so great... you (& I) have had some hard times. Had you made other choices MAYBE you would be more comfortable now, and maybe you would be LESS happy... or paralyzed from neck down because of a motorcycle accident or having fall down the stairs of the mansion you could have owned in Evanston, or maybe your son would now be a junkie... you do not know what "would have happened if ______" - so it does no good to feel bad about your past choices; but you should try to learn from your past experience {those who do not remember (& learn from) the past are doomed to repeat the mistakes}.
I like you. For the most part, I like how you have treated me. No you have not always treated me the way I wanted, but I am sure you (& others) could say the same to me.
You & I "go way back" - we have been through a lot together. I will be your friend forever. I hope you want to be my friend. I know I have helped you a lot in the past & you have been there for me too.
The last two times I was in XXXXXX you were a good listener, a good sign - it proves to me you do care about me. I care about you & I hope you will continue to listen to me. I will do my best to listen to you as well.
The pay at [where she works now] is not great, it kinda sucks even, but it could be a step to something better. Are you still working there? Look again at the photo-copy I sent - you would be great at the "Container Store" & as a dealer at a casino (BIG tips!). Starbucks could be good to you too. "Whole Foods Market" (rated #5 in best companies to work for, just behind the "Container Store") could be a good career move, and I bet you would save on food for [your son]!
I think it is important that you "plan for the future" if you can.
I know you know this, just reminding you &/or typing to make myself happy ( just kidding, I hope ;) but I am pretty sure your life will be easier in the future if you can find a "career path" that you can go down for a long time to come - to give you some financially stability.
I want to talk to you about a few more things: about working with X & X and their [biz] in [place], about if you would consider moving to XXX or another country, and other things...
One more thing I want to say/type now, it seems every time I come over the TV is on in front of your bed & in your son's room too... it seems not a good thing for a number of reasons, one being if you are short on money maybe you should turn the TVs off to save electricity &/or sell the TVs! My mom never let me & my brothers watch more than a few hours of TV each week, and I am glad for that... although we can learn a lot on some good programs, and enjoy a good movie for fun, we can also waste a lot of time & our brains on TV and Video/computer games [a small/bad joke was here] but I hope you see my points (& not the ones on my head).
That is enough for now!
- ttyl/Soon!
Sighris
p.s. I love you and have faith in you.
- hang in their XXXX ( no pun intended... well, maybe a little [my dear]! ;)
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Thank Eris & the other godz my life is going better than ever!!!
And their is some good news, one of my good friends (who has also helped me) got a new & better job! Other of my friends are doing good too. And two of my friends are pregnant! - read about it on their LJ's & send them congratz!
So what the hell is new with you?
- Let me know if you want me to know because I don't have time enough to read all of my friend's LJs & all the emails I get, and... well, that is enough complaining, you get the idea I am sure.
So what the hell ~is~ new with you? (excuse the non-Eprime)