Goodbye
Not trying to be cruel but.....
Long story short. I ended a friendship with someone because he said some things that was hurtful and inappropriate. At the time he paternally told me what I should be doing and how I should be doing it and then accused me of being on drugs because I was thoroughly happy with my life at the time and was meeting people who were admittedly a lot different from LA people in a good way (Austin, TX.)
Jump to the present: A few years later, he has un-admittedly apologized for whatever he has done - he is still in denial to what he said was not only careless but offensive and denies that it was in fact me whom said goodbye to our friendship because of the situation created. Gently as I could I admitted that there were a few things I missed about our friendship, I wished him a happy life but I believed I made it clear that I viewed any possible friendship between us as negative. I told him my opinion that he unconsciously surrounds himself with negative people who did nothing but leech off of everything positive in life and I could no longer be around or associated with that environment. However, the real kicker for me was his response with a segment that defended a man who was abusive to women and once tried to do so to me… I clipped that one immediately. That was final proof to me that a friendship between us would continue to always be impossible.
He is a nice guy and I wish him and his wife nothing but a life without hardship and drama .
But he wants to include me in his world again and he doesn’t see how contacting me through my different social networks is starting to look starkerish which he has been accused of previously in his past. I know he doesn’t realize it and I don't believe he means it in that way. But it's becoming frustrating and taking me away from work I need to concentrate on.
He has a wife and though I would never say this to anyone else including strangers - can’t she tell him to stop? Tell him
“Honey, she said no so maybe it’s best to leave it be and move on”
This is not a case of him wanting to have an affair. He just can’t stand the idea that there is a previous someone in his life that now doesn't want to be in his life and his friend. He’s a nice enough guy but I don’t need a father or a brother and I absolutely do not need someone telling me how to live my life.
With that said...
If your reading this (and you know who I'm referring to) please stop.
I'm not trying to be cruel, but I am trying to be direct.
I don’t know how to make this any clearer.
“Goodbye”
Spend your energy on your life. Cook your wife a great dinner and show how much you appreciate her. Take the time your spending on writing to me and spend it on something more productive. I wish you well but I don’t want you in my life. DON’T look over my LinkedIn account and take anything on it as an invitation to “connect.” It is not an invitation.
I wish you well. Live long and prosper.
In other words
Goodbye