I just finished watching the movie. First off, I really liked the movie. The music reminded me of BBM and I thought it added to the grief of the movie. Secondly, I agree with a lot of what you and morrobay have opined about the movie.
My take on it was that Marc did love Bettina, perhaps he wasn't in love with her any more, but she was pregnant with his child. From what Marc's mom said that they didn't raise him that way, I saw that as one of the reasons that Marc didn't outright want to leave Bettina. He saw a duty to her and his child - that's the way he was raised. I'm not sure how his mom meant it - whether she was saying 'we didn't raise you to be a homosexual' or that it was more of 'where's your sense of responsibility?' and/or 'you're not supposed to cheat on your girlfriend'. She was thrown a curve ball for sure, she had no reason to think that her son was gay (or bi) and obviously was so happy to be a grandmother that perhaps she saw this as screwing up that grandparent relationship. It might be that my job has colored my thoughts on this as I've seen lots of horrible things done to hurt others and kids are a damn good way to do that (i.e. Bettina not letting her son see/spend time with Marc's parents).
Anyway, I got the sense from his actions that Marc didn't want to hurt anyone but of course that rarely ever works out and in the end everyone got hurt. I believe he was in love with Kay but I also think that even if he had chosen to leave Bettina, I don't really think he was ready for a full on relationship with Kay. Just because you're in love with someone, doesn't mean it's going to be happily ever after. There were still things Marc had to work out about himself.
I saw the ending as not necessarily that Marc was back where he started, but that he was perhaps starting over and he was better than before for all the things that he'd been through.
My take on it was that Marc did love Bettina, perhaps he wasn't in love with her any more, but she was pregnant with his child. From what Marc's mom said that they didn't raise him that way, I saw that as one of the reasons that Marc didn't outright want to leave Bettina. He saw a duty to her and his child - that's the way he was raised. I'm not sure how his mom meant it - whether she was saying 'we didn't raise you to be a homosexual' or that it was more of 'where's your sense of responsibility?' and/or 'you're not supposed to cheat on your girlfriend'. She was thrown a curve ball for sure, she had no reason to think that her son was gay (or bi) and obviously was so happy to be a grandmother that perhaps she saw this as screwing up that grandparent relationship. It might be that my job has colored my thoughts on this as I've seen lots of horrible things done to hurt others and kids are a damn good way to do that (i.e. Bettina not letting her son see/spend time with Marc's parents).
Anyway, I got the sense from his actions that Marc didn't want to hurt anyone but of course that rarely ever works out and in the end everyone got hurt. I believe he was in love with Kay but I also think that even if he had chosen to leave Bettina, I don't really think he was ready for a full on relationship with Kay. Just because you're in love with someone, doesn't mean it's going to be happily ever after. There were still things Marc had to work out about himself.
I saw the ending as not necessarily that Marc was back where he started, but that he was perhaps starting over and he was better than before for all the things that he'd been through.
Thanks for the rec! A very enjoyable movie.
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