Just a Vent
Why is it that when you are dating someone the other person always seems to clam up tighter than an oyster shell shortly after you get together and then tells you its not your fault? I don't understand what happened to decent communication. I am not saying tell me everything, I am saying that if something is bothering you and it starts to have you distracted from the relationship, then my belief is that you should tell me what it is so that I know to keep my distance. Is there any harm in knowing what the other person is feeling? I am not saying I want to know all the time, everyone is allowed their own personal and private feelings that they never share. But if it seeps into the relationship then I think I have the right to know. I am just a little confused about this, because I don't want to come off as being controlling. I just care about this person, and if he is feeling down, I would like to help if i can. My personal life, now that I have one....is taking a turn for the more confusing...I am still slightly involved with my ex who is currently in jail. He's no good for me, he has a kid he barely wants...his ex girlfriend will permanently be involved in his life and treats him like shit dumps him every chance she gets and can't keep her legs closed for more than thirty seconds. I honestly don't know what to do at this point.