cupid's trick
I signed up for OKCupid. Actually not because I wanted to join a dating site. I was hanging out with some friends, a friend wanted us to do this survey, and then I realized it might be a cool site.
It "matches" people based on a series of somewhat strange personality questions, where you answer a multiple choice question, say what your ideal match would answer, and then rate how important that question would be to your match.
It sounds great, so I answered 40+ questions, saw some matches, and sent some messages. I tried to be "myself" in my profile, although I was probably way too up front. I said I'm really good at sex/the things that happen before sex. That might be a little too much. But women like sex, don't they?
It's probably too early to judge, but I've only got one message from some person and I've sent out about 6 messages and no responses. I'm gotten a fair amount of visits for about a day of having a profile. Those that I match really high with sound like really awesome women, with interesting profiles (to me), and I feel like we would really get along. I'm just trying to be my best, somewhat funny, somewhat cocky self in messages. However, I feel like all of this will leave me dry. There's a missing component to this, even when I may be being myself.
Regardless, I've spent a lot of time thinking and talking about this with my friends. (It's GREAT to be back at Amherst btw.)
This I know for sure:
I'm awesome, and I'm in good shape/going to be working out a lot.
I love women, and I am good at that which maybe should not be named?
I'm intelligent and if I have a high confidence level about myself, I will meet someone, as long as I take chances. As long as I take chances.
I may have made about 2 mistakes with women in the past 6 months, but that's over and done in one case, and I'm moving on. And in the other case, I'm curious if just admitting my mistake might get me somewhere with her.
What I don't know for sure:
If attraction matters.
If being alike matters.
I have lots of theories. One of them is that attraction is meaningless. I've had strong feelings (crushes) on about a handful of people in my life. What would have happened if I had acted on those feelings? Nothing? Something? Anything? What is important to forming love? I don't know.
If I can't meet an awesome person on this site, it's back to the drawing board.
It "matches" people based on a series of somewhat strange personality questions, where you answer a multiple choice question, say what your ideal match would answer, and then rate how important that question would be to your match.
It sounds great, so I answered 40+ questions, saw some matches, and sent some messages. I tried to be "myself" in my profile, although I was probably way too up front. I said I'm really good at sex/the things that happen before sex. That might be a little too much. But women like sex, don't they?
It's probably too early to judge, but I've only got one message from some person and I've sent out about 6 messages and no responses. I'm gotten a fair amount of visits for about a day of having a profile. Those that I match really high with sound like really awesome women, with interesting profiles (to me), and I feel like we would really get along. I'm just trying to be my best, somewhat funny, somewhat cocky self in messages. However, I feel like all of this will leave me dry. There's a missing component to this, even when I may be being myself.
Regardless, I've spent a lot of time thinking and talking about this with my friends. (It's GREAT to be back at Amherst btw.)
This I know for sure:
I'm awesome, and I'm in good shape/going to be working out a lot.
I love women, and I am good at that which maybe should not be named?
I'm intelligent and if I have a high confidence level about myself, I will meet someone, as long as I take chances. As long as I take chances.
I may have made about 2 mistakes with women in the past 6 months, but that's over and done in one case, and I'm moving on. And in the other case, I'm curious if just admitting my mistake might get me somewhere with her.
What I don't know for sure:
If attraction matters.
If being alike matters.
I have lots of theories. One of them is that attraction is meaningless. I've had strong feelings (crushes) on about a handful of people in my life. What would have happened if I had acted on those feelings? Nothing? Something? Anything? What is important to forming love? I don't know.
If I can't meet an awesome person on this site, it's back to the drawing board.