Getting over brokenness
The fastest way to get over someone is to divert your obsession on another.
I never felt that having a rebound was a bad thing unless your sole purpose is to seek attention. In fact, if you have just been broken-hearted, it is likely you are more willing to connect and express your vulnerable self, maybe one of the better times to be falling in love if you ask me.
The other party also has an opportunity to see an imperfect version of you, and can assess if he/she wants to invest in mending the wounds or backfilling in the missing pieces.
You know you are starting on the wrong foot (or clearly not ready) if:
- You are making comparisons with your ex
- If you are trying to make him into your ex, passing judgement too fast
- You just want to prove that you have moved on
Some thoughts to start with
- 'The other one' deserves to know the whole truth - Be transparent with him/her about your ex-relationship; Be clear and honest if it has utterly ended or hanging in mid-air
- We know you are hurting - There is no need to be strong or cast pretense that you are ready to forget about your previous relationship. Share about your pain, thoughts, memories; In fact this may be the best opportunity for your new partner to know how you behave after falling into a rut
- Don't engage in physical contact too quickly - As a matter of fact, don't jump into the bed too soon in ANY relationship. It may not be so easy after a break-up, but sex always makes things more complicated than it already is
- Be sensitive about his/her feelings - Your rebound partner deserves to be treated like any lover. Be sensitive and understanding to their emotions and don't make every about yourself or your ex