Weddings
What's worse than being single at a wedding?
Being a single Indian female of 27 years of age at an Indian wedding.
You wouldn't understand unless you are one.
Being loved by the entire of our social circle, I'm constantly talking to one aunty or uncle. Inevitably, the question will arise:
"Tho, teri kabh shaadi hogi?" (So, when is your wedding?)
"Tu bhi shaadi karle, na. Humme naachna hain. Bahut naachenge teri shaadi mein" (you should get married too! We'll dance! We'll dance so much at your wedding)
And then you get the aunty's who have no shame or care:
"Bahut nahin hogaiya? Waqt aagaiya ke abh shaadi karle, ghar bassao aur pati ka khyal rakh" (Isn't it enough now? The time has come to get married now, settle down and run your house and take care of your husband)
And I'm completely serious.
I get enough from my folks, constantly harrassing me - it's about time you got married. We'll find someone nice, and if you wait too long, you won't find someone. All the good guys will be taken by then. There's a time for everything, and as it is, it may already be too late".
That's right. If you didn't know, Indian girls have a use-by-date. It's true. I'm waiting another year as after that, I hope to have thoroughly passed mine.
I love going to Indian weddings (dancing, the culture, it's all fun) but lately I've been avoiding all social functions as it's:
a.) Wedding season
b.) I get accosted at each party. One person will always mention marriage.
c.) I've been getting people telling me about their lovely son/nephew/grandson/uncles child's brother-in-law's brother/etc who's lovely, single, a good match and my age
Needless to say, last night was no better at the wedding. Oh, I don't know if I mentioned I went to an Indian wedding last night. A family friend of old's daughter's wedding.
Not only that, but upon waking this morning, heard my mother talking on the phone to some random guest from the party who thought it would be nice to call and mention that her son is in Melbourne, successful, lovely, etc. Grr!!!
From the time I turned 23 I've been harrassed by all the aunty's and other people I don't even know! Mum & Dad have been sent so many bio-datas (that's what they're called in India - basically a resume about the boy/girl the parents are trying to marry off, complete with photos, hobbies, etc) of boys for me, and girls for my brother. It's quite frustrating. It's like my life isn't mine.
Now, we've been told that one of our close family friend's daughter was engaged this morning. I'm thrilled for her, but unfortunately it's going to make it worse for me. Being close friends, I'm going to get the whole "she's 25, you're 27. It's about time" thing constantly now.
Oh well.
I'm happy where I am. I'm nowhere near ready to be married by any means. Though sometimes it seems life would be easier if I just said to my parents "fine. Find someone. I'll get married". Though I'm too strong willed and too independant to do that. To steal the words of Lizzie - only the deepest of love will induce me into matrimony.
Being a single Indian female of 27 years of age at an Indian wedding.
You wouldn't understand unless you are one.
Being loved by the entire of our social circle, I'm constantly talking to one aunty or uncle. Inevitably, the question will arise:
"Tho, teri kabh shaadi hogi?" (So, when is your wedding?)
"Tu bhi shaadi karle, na. Humme naachna hain. Bahut naachenge teri shaadi mein" (you should get married too! We'll dance! We'll dance so much at your wedding)
And then you get the aunty's who have no shame or care:
"Bahut nahin hogaiya? Waqt aagaiya ke abh shaadi karle, ghar bassao aur pati ka khyal rakh" (Isn't it enough now? The time has come to get married now, settle down and run your house and take care of your husband)
And I'm completely serious.
I get enough from my folks, constantly harrassing me - it's about time you got married. We'll find someone nice, and if you wait too long, you won't find someone. All the good guys will be taken by then. There's a time for everything, and as it is, it may already be too late".
That's right. If you didn't know, Indian girls have a use-by-date. It's true. I'm waiting another year as after that, I hope to have thoroughly passed mine.
I love going to Indian weddings (dancing, the culture, it's all fun) but lately I've been avoiding all social functions as it's:
a.) Wedding season
b.) I get accosted at each party. One person will always mention marriage.
c.) I've been getting people telling me about their lovely son/nephew/grandson/uncles child's brother-in-law's brother/etc who's lovely, single, a good match and my age
Needless to say, last night was no better at the wedding. Oh, I don't know if I mentioned I went to an Indian wedding last night. A family friend of old's daughter's wedding.
Not only that, but upon waking this morning, heard my mother talking on the phone to some random guest from the party who thought it would be nice to call and mention that her son is in Melbourne, successful, lovely, etc. Grr!!!
From the time I turned 23 I've been harrassed by all the aunty's and other people I don't even know! Mum & Dad have been sent so many bio-datas (that's what they're called in India - basically a resume about the boy/girl the parents are trying to marry off, complete with photos, hobbies, etc) of boys for me, and girls for my brother. It's quite frustrating. It's like my life isn't mine.
Now, we've been told that one of our close family friend's daughter was engaged this morning. I'm thrilled for her, but unfortunately it's going to make it worse for me. Being close friends, I'm going to get the whole "she's 25, you're 27. It's about time" thing constantly now.
Oh well.
I'm happy where I am. I'm nowhere near ready to be married by any means. Though sometimes it seems life would be easier if I just said to my parents "fine. Find someone. I'll get married". Though I'm too strong willed and too independant to do that. To steal the words of Lizzie - only the deepest of love will induce me into matrimony.