According to the tests.....
Your Personality Type:
The Idealist
Opening the world to new possibilities
* As an Idealist, your mission in life is to make the world a better place. You care about big ideas and big issues, but you're also dedicated to the lives of the people around you.
* In many ways, you're the ideal friend or co-worker. You have great empathy skills. You give sound advice, but more importantly, you know when to just listen. At work, you're a natural facilitator, motivator, and energizer. You have a gift for promoting harmony and cooperation at work. In fact, few things bother you more than conflicts at work.
* Your hopes and dreams are very important to you, so you take other people's dreams seriously, too. Your friends and family know they can come to you for a booster shot of support and optimism, whether it's for pursuing their dream job or dream man or woman.
* Most people have goals and dreams, but you're more likely than most to actually achieve them. You have a clear idea of what you want in life. You anticipate and plan around obstacles, and you're a sharp problem solver. Plus, it's pretty darn hard to discourage you.
* Idealists come in many varieties, from the academic to the pragmatic. You stand soundly in the middle. Only you know what you'll do with your gifts. Ultimately, whether you touch the world, your community, or simply your closest friends and family-it's Idealists like you that give us all the inspiration to dream and strive for something more.
Your Love Style:
Sensible
You're looking to fall in love with a lifetime companion-someone who'll share the good times and the bad.
* You take love and commitment very seriously. To you, love is a partnership. It's an extreme form of friendship. Dating gives you a chance to learn what you like and don't like and who you would get along with best. However, once you know who you're looking for, it's a waste of time to pursue a relationship and risk falling in love with someone you know is incompatible.
* The Sensible love style is the most practical and reasonable of the love styles. You don't expect love at first sight. Liking someone is a good start, and as comfort and closeness grow, love can emerge. Of course, Sensible lovers have to be prepared for the possibility that it may not work out that way. When we "fall in" love, we "fall away" from the routines and rules that define our day-to-day lives. It's this extraordinary emotion that motivates us to rearrange our lives and priorities to incorporate someone else. Paradoxically, it's the irrational part of love that helps us deal with all the pragmatic and logistical challenges of committing to someone.
* Even after a passionate stretch, chances are your approach to love will return to a more Sensible style. Most lovers, regardless of how they start, evolve more into companions over time anyway. For now, your "style" of loving has these common features:
* You're looking for a very close, intimate relationship. You want to share the most important aspects of your life with him and not feel like you have to hold things back. The past is the past, but you should be open and honest about your life now. If you love him, you'll want to know about his hopes and dreams and try to help make them come true.
* You're most likely to fall in love with a man who's independent by nature. He won't expect to merge his life with yours. Keeping separate friends, for example, will just give you more to talk about when you're together.
* Like the song says, "If you want to know if he loves you so, it's in his kiss." You want passionate kisses and won't settle for anything less. The two of you will probably be instantly attracted to each other. Sexual chemistry isn't everything, but it's a great way to connect body and soul with your partner.
* Both partners have to decide when they're ready to make a commitment and at what pace. Rushing into a commitment only adds to the pressure of forming a relationship. The two of you have to find the type and level of commitment that makes sense given your feelings and how long you've been together.
Your Biggest Challenge Is:
How can you promote harmony and still allow healthy conflict?
* Idealists go out of their way to promote harmony at work, in their families, and among their friends. You're a natural peacemaker and take it upon yourself to mediate disputes. And whenever possible, you try to prevent them. On more than one occasion, you've probably asked: "Why can't we all just get along?!"
* Yet conflict doesn't have to be destructive-there is such a thing as healthy conflict. Even heated exchanges can be useful as long as both of you play fair.
* Part of your challenge is learning to tolerate uncertainty and being disliked. As a creative person, you know that some of your best ideas come after long periods of frustration and feeling "blocked." You may find also that some of your relationships are equally blocked and require "creative conflict" to move forward.
* Asking an Idealist and peacemaker to have more conflicts is admittedly ambitious. Still, one of your strengths is that you're always open to new ideas and trying new things. In that spirit, here are some other possible challenges to consider:
o You hate to be alone. Your challenge is learning the difference between solitude and loneliness. Try scheduling a "date" with yourself. Cook yourself dinner or order take-out and pick out a great movie to watch by yourself. When you spend all your free time with other people, you end up spending your time alone doing chores or dealing with problems. So you have to remind yourself what great company you can be. Agree?
o You're a people pleaser. You can be so focused on keeping other people happy that you forget to take care of your own needs. It sounds cliché, but the only one that can satisfy your need for approval is yourself. Try setting aside some time every day to think about what you've done and be proud of the little things you do that people can't or won't appreciate. Agree?
o It's easy for you to escape into your own inner world. At times it can be easier to ignore real world problems and slip into your daydreams. You may find balance by using your fantasy life to imagine ways around your real world obstacles. Perhaps your mind is showing you a path out of your troubles if you can read the symbols
The Idealist
Opening the world to new possibilities
* As an Idealist, your mission in life is to make the world a better place. You care about big ideas and big issues, but you're also dedicated to the lives of the people around you.
* In many ways, you're the ideal friend or co-worker. You have great empathy skills. You give sound advice, but more importantly, you know when to just listen. At work, you're a natural facilitator, motivator, and energizer. You have a gift for promoting harmony and cooperation at work. In fact, few things bother you more than conflicts at work.
* Your hopes and dreams are very important to you, so you take other people's dreams seriously, too. Your friends and family know they can come to you for a booster shot of support and optimism, whether it's for pursuing their dream job or dream man or woman.
* Most people have goals and dreams, but you're more likely than most to actually achieve them. You have a clear idea of what you want in life. You anticipate and plan around obstacles, and you're a sharp problem solver. Plus, it's pretty darn hard to discourage you.
* Idealists come in many varieties, from the academic to the pragmatic. You stand soundly in the middle. Only you know what you'll do with your gifts. Ultimately, whether you touch the world, your community, or simply your closest friends and family-it's Idealists like you that give us all the inspiration to dream and strive for something more.
Your Love Style:
Sensible
You're looking to fall in love with a lifetime companion-someone who'll share the good times and the bad.
* You take love and commitment very seriously. To you, love is a partnership. It's an extreme form of friendship. Dating gives you a chance to learn what you like and don't like and who you would get along with best. However, once you know who you're looking for, it's a waste of time to pursue a relationship and risk falling in love with someone you know is incompatible.
* The Sensible love style is the most practical and reasonable of the love styles. You don't expect love at first sight. Liking someone is a good start, and as comfort and closeness grow, love can emerge. Of course, Sensible lovers have to be prepared for the possibility that it may not work out that way. When we "fall in" love, we "fall away" from the routines and rules that define our day-to-day lives. It's this extraordinary emotion that motivates us to rearrange our lives and priorities to incorporate someone else. Paradoxically, it's the irrational part of love that helps us deal with all the pragmatic and logistical challenges of committing to someone.
* Even after a passionate stretch, chances are your approach to love will return to a more Sensible style. Most lovers, regardless of how they start, evolve more into companions over time anyway. For now, your "style" of loving has these common features:
* You're looking for a very close, intimate relationship. You want to share the most important aspects of your life with him and not feel like you have to hold things back. The past is the past, but you should be open and honest about your life now. If you love him, you'll want to know about his hopes and dreams and try to help make them come true.
* You're most likely to fall in love with a man who's independent by nature. He won't expect to merge his life with yours. Keeping separate friends, for example, will just give you more to talk about when you're together.
* Like the song says, "If you want to know if he loves you so, it's in his kiss." You want passionate kisses and won't settle for anything less. The two of you will probably be instantly attracted to each other. Sexual chemistry isn't everything, but it's a great way to connect body and soul with your partner.
* Both partners have to decide when they're ready to make a commitment and at what pace. Rushing into a commitment only adds to the pressure of forming a relationship. The two of you have to find the type and level of commitment that makes sense given your feelings and how long you've been together.
Your Biggest Challenge Is:
How can you promote harmony and still allow healthy conflict?
* Idealists go out of their way to promote harmony at work, in their families, and among their friends. You're a natural peacemaker and take it upon yourself to mediate disputes. And whenever possible, you try to prevent them. On more than one occasion, you've probably asked: "Why can't we all just get along?!"
* Yet conflict doesn't have to be destructive-there is such a thing as healthy conflict. Even heated exchanges can be useful as long as both of you play fair.
* Part of your challenge is learning to tolerate uncertainty and being disliked. As a creative person, you know that some of your best ideas come after long periods of frustration and feeling "blocked." You may find also that some of your relationships are equally blocked and require "creative conflict" to move forward.
* Asking an Idealist and peacemaker to have more conflicts is admittedly ambitious. Still, one of your strengths is that you're always open to new ideas and trying new things. In that spirit, here are some other possible challenges to consider:
o You hate to be alone. Your challenge is learning the difference between solitude and loneliness. Try scheduling a "date" with yourself. Cook yourself dinner or order take-out and pick out a great movie to watch by yourself. When you spend all your free time with other people, you end up spending your time alone doing chores or dealing with problems. So you have to remind yourself what great company you can be. Agree?
o You're a people pleaser. You can be so focused on keeping other people happy that you forget to take care of your own needs. It sounds cliché, but the only one that can satisfy your need for approval is yourself. Try setting aside some time every day to think about what you've done and be proud of the little things you do that people can't or won't appreciate. Agree?
o It's easy for you to escape into your own inner world. At times it can be easier to ignore real world problems and slip into your daydreams. You may find balance by using your fantasy life to imagine ways around your real world obstacles. Perhaps your mind is showing you a path out of your troubles if you can read the symbols