“We need others. We need others to love and we need to be loved by them. There is no doubt that without it, we too, like the infant left alone, would cease to grow, cease to develop, choose madness and even death.” - Leo Buscaglia
I began to write a response and then scrapped it upon taking a few minutes away from the computer to actually ponder the question. Every word including love and intimacy have a dictionary definition. Though in actually defining abstract ideas such as intimacy, one hundred people will give you one hundred different definitions. Personally, I have never known an intimate moment to occur while being outside the company of another human being. I consider intimacy to be a private connection related to love, mutual understanding, trust, and respect. I may keep a journal, which details intimate events in my life, but the journal itself is not intimate. The recorded history within is. As stated in the opening quote, we must have love, could be translated intimacy, to survive.
Intimate moments can happen anywhere, but anyone on the outside looking in might not even recognize it as such. One example might be, a couple, walking very close together through the mall, is holding hands. They kiss briefly and continue, excitedly along their way. By all appearances, they are just another couple on a Sunday afternoon. But what you do not know is that they have just picked out their wedding bands for the ceremony to be held soon. What would be just another public display of affection to someone watching is actually quiet intimate for them.
I find my most intimate moments to actually be directly tied to moments of intense pain or serious romance. (Some might they are one in the same.) These moments allowed me the chance to open up to someone in a whole new way, and to understand myself so much more. I'm not saying that I have not found intimacy in seemingly little nuansces of my day, I have. And as I get older this does seem to be more of the trend. All in all, I think intimate moments are very healthy for us all. And the more that we enjoy life, and the longer we exist, the more we appreciate our relationships and experiences.
I began to write a response and then scrapped it upon taking a few minutes away from the computer to actually ponder the question. Every word including love and intimacy have a dictionary definition. Though in actually defining abstract ideas such as intimacy, one hundred people will give you one hundred different definitions. Personally, I have never known an intimate moment to occur while being outside the company of another human being. I consider intimacy to be a private connection related to love, mutual understanding, trust, and respect. I may keep a journal, which details intimate events in my life, but the journal itself is not intimate. The recorded history within is. As stated in the opening quote, we must have love, could be translated intimacy, to survive.
Intimate moments can happen anywhere, but anyone on the outside looking in might not even recognize it as such. One example might be, a couple, walking very close together through the mall, is holding hands. They kiss briefly and continue, excitedly along their way. By all appearances, they are just another couple on a Sunday afternoon. But what you do not know is that they have just picked out their wedding bands for the ceremony to be held soon. What would be just another public display of affection to someone watching is actually quiet intimate for them.
I find my most intimate moments to actually be directly tied to moments of intense pain or serious romance. (Some might they are one in the same.) These moments allowed me the chance to open up to someone in a whole new way, and to understand myself so much more. I'm not saying that I have not found intimacy in seemingly little nuansces of my day, I have. And as I get older this does seem to be more of the trend. All in all, I think intimate moments are very healthy for us all. And the more that we enjoy life, and the longer we exist, the more we appreciate our relationships and experiences.
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