Negotiations
- Oh what the heck, let's get married. We've both been through the other shit before, what's the difference if it's after a couple of months, or years?
- Sounds good to me. We're signing a pre-nup, I suppose? Not that I am putting to any doubt our capacity to have a till-death-due-us-apart kind of marriage, but I don't want people thinking I'm marrying you for the money. In the pre-nup we should stipulate we are each entitled to our own assets, which we possessed before marriage, meanwhile all the assets any of us acquired during marriage, regardless of the financial part invested by any of the parties is to be split in equal percentage of value, in case of divorce.
- Unromantic, but reasonable.
- I agree, but once we settled this, I'll let lose of my inner princess to plan the wedding.
- Whatever makes you happy.
- You make me feel colorful and inspired for a different new chapter in my life.
- But you don't share the same hobbies as me!
- I can give them a chance, try out something new. If not - we'll find some compromise. We can go for a longer walk by the lake or stroll in the cities once a week, and once a week we go for a hike. We'll start small, I need to adapt.
If we manage this part, once I sell the apartment, I'll get you a Rolex, or pay the helicopter pilot education. As much as I don't stand behind these being savvy financial investments, but whatever would make you happier.
- Just you making me laugh and licking my ass makes me the happiest Swiss alive.
To be honest, I am not sure I want children. I am torn between being hopeful and unnaturally positive about the future and humanity and selfish about putting a new little creature to deal with the beauties and pains of this life. But I also think we would both be great, loving parents. We're both giving, and take joy in sharing experiences, ideas, music, travels. We're perfectly balanced, me with my romanticism and dreaminess, you more analytical, pragmatic, yet in love with life. I think we could have a boy and a girl. Or just a girl - I think you deserve to be a daddy's girl. Oops, I meant a girl's daddy. Wait, I'm not sure this sounds right either... Nevermind, hahaha.
But seriously, I think I would rather have a childless kind of marriage, at least for another year or two. Let us enjoy our coupledom, first, or for longer. Let's get back to this, when either of us feels different on the matter.
- Not everything has to be figured out, some situations require a bit of faith and listening to your heart, your body, and the mind will follow. You're better at taking financial calculated risks, I am better in intuitive decisions. Maybe the in-between will take us where we want to be in our shared lives.