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i remember hearing a story about a little 7 year old niece who LOVED worms. she loved worms so much that she would play with them all day in the garden. sometimes she would also grab the worms and bring them over to her dad in the house. but during those times, on the trip from the garden to the house, she would squeeze the worms she loved so tightly in her hands that when she showed her father, the worms were squashed to death.
that is a good story to remember when facing jealousy issues in relationships. the strongest relationships are when you can hold a worm in your hands just enough to feel their presence without feeling their guts. relationships inherently require dependence, but co-dependence is the death of a relationship.
in my currently nearly 2 year relationship, i still make the 7 year old mistake time and time again.
i see women who appear so strong, so confident, so unaffected by where their men go, who they hang out with, how they act around strangers. these women appear to be the happiest and healthiest. i want to be one of those women.
i have a man who is so patient to be squeezed, but unless i change my mental state of mind, i know that squashing is imminent.
the strangest thing is that we are both so young, that the damage of infidelity is low. no children or marriage is involved.
so if i can't steady myself now, how will i be in my 20th year of marriage? 2 years shouldn't be so hard, but i'm optimistic that this is hopefully my age of learning. i hope to graduate a wiser woman. when you know you're being a bad gf, odds are, you're probably a bad girlfriend.
that is a good story to remember when facing jealousy issues in relationships. the strongest relationships are when you can hold a worm in your hands just enough to feel their presence without feeling their guts. relationships inherently require dependence, but co-dependence is the death of a relationship.
in my currently nearly 2 year relationship, i still make the 7 year old mistake time and time again.
i see women who appear so strong, so confident, so unaffected by where their men go, who they hang out with, how they act around strangers. these women appear to be the happiest and healthiest. i want to be one of those women.
i have a man who is so patient to be squeezed, but unless i change my mental state of mind, i know that squashing is imminent.
the strangest thing is that we are both so young, that the damage of infidelity is low. no children or marriage is involved.
so if i can't steady myself now, how will i be in my 20th year of marriage? 2 years shouldn't be so hard, but i'm optimistic that this is hopefully my age of learning. i hope to graduate a wiser woman. when you know you're being a bad gf, odds are, you're probably a bad girlfriend.