Biological clocks scare me. I sometimes think I'll put it off for far too long and miss the boat. Or it will happen when I least expect it and I'll have to just learn to live with it. I'm afraid of the sense of loss or the sense of resentment I'd feel post-massive-life-change, although obviously I have no idea if this would be the case. I'm afraid of missing out on things that I perhaps wouldn't be able to do if I had another person to take care of. I'm scared of not experiencing any of these things.
I HATE being continuously asked if I am planning on having kids, like a woman's measure of success is how many kids they can produce. Your question is in a different context so it's ok, but the all-knowing wink-wink 'better hurry up or you'll be an old maid' and the surprised 'oh!' along with the unspoken "What's wrong with her?" camp can piss right off and leave me alone :)
*shrug* I thought about adopting an orangutan today. Does that count? :)
I'm afraid of missing out on things that I perhaps wouldn't be able to do if I had another person to take care of. I'm scared of not experiencing any of these things.
I feel that way too. However, I also sometimes feel that (even now at 27) I might be too old to properly enjoy my (potential) kid(s) growing up, and when are grown up to the point where I can kick them out of home (in a nice way!), Ill be too old to enjoy what life I have left.
*shrugs* My parents were 27/28 when they had me. By the time they were done, they were 35. Thats way too old. They're 55 ish now, and still have two kids at home. Fuck that. In an ideal world, I'd churn out my last* kid [well] before I was 30.
I don't know- my parents had me at 28/29 and had their last at I think 35/36? They seem to have done alright for themselves in terms of Life Adventure. What do you want to be doing at 50 that you can't do at 55? Also, by the time they're 18 you can go off and do your own thing for awhile. That's like, 53. Which is practically 50.
I think if it hadn't happened accidentally I would have put it off and might never have actually gone through with it. Either way I think I have/would have missed out on a lot of experiences and opportunities. From where I sit, one of the the very annoying things about life is that for everything you choose to do you're forgoing about six million other possibilities. I had about a year of mourning everything everything I was going to have to give up- and then everything became normalised and I didn't fret anymore. And now my future plans are almost identical to what they were pre-baby only they're all amended with something like 'I will have to find a Chinese nanny'. I have to wait and see how well it works out.
I am so bothered by what seems like an assumption that all women secretly want to have babies, and if they don't make it a priority then there is something wrong with them? Maybe I just read too much internet.
I HATE being continuously asked if I am planning on having kids, like a woman's measure of success is how many kids they can produce. Your question is in a different context so it's ok, but the all-knowing wink-wink 'better hurry up or you'll be an old maid' and the surprised 'oh!' along with the unspoken "What's wrong with her?" camp can piss right off and leave me alone :)
*shrug* I thought about adopting an orangutan today. Does that count? :)
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I feel that way too. However, I also sometimes feel that (even now at 27) I might be too old to properly enjoy my (potential) kid(s) growing up, and when are grown up to the point where I can kick them out of home (in a nice way!), Ill be too old to enjoy what life I have left.
Maybe science will save me.
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Eat good, exsercise and don't smoke and you should be right?
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* I always figured on 2-3...
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I am so bothered by what seems like an assumption that all women secretly want to have babies, and if they don't make it a priority then there is something wrong with them? Maybe I just read too much internet.
You can adopt orangutans? I wanna.
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