How are you?
Something I've thought about while I've been sick..what the hell are you supposed to say when people say "I'm sorry for your loss" if someone close to you dies? Are you supposed to say anything? I'm at a loss, quite literally..but as to what to say when someone says I'm sorry for your loss. You want to say "Yeah it sucks and you really can't do anything about it" but that would be rude so you smile and say it's ok and that things are fine. When assuredly they're not, it's never just "fine" but if you say "Life sucks, I'm totally in denial and I can't stop thinking about how much I miss him/her" people will either 1) look at you funny because they really didn't want to have to deal with you 2) try and make you cry on their shoulder or 3)stand at a loss for words, so now you've left them with trying to come up with something to say.
It's like when you walk down the hallway at school. "Wassup" doesn't mean "lets start a conversation" or "hey how are ya?" doesn't mean "tell me your life story while you pass" it means say hello and say you are good/fine. There is no time to talk about how you are bad, how you've had a crappy day and you just want to die in a pile. Your actually feelings at the time don't matter, but to make things simple you just nod smile and say I'm alright you?
Anyway..just wondered if I was the only one who never really knows how to answer stuff. Maybe there should be classes, hehe. They teach you how to answer and make everybody happy. But in all actuality I don't think anyone really wants to hear your bad news, they're just asking to be polite.
-Lia
It's like when you walk down the hallway at school. "Wassup" doesn't mean "lets start a conversation" or "hey how are ya?" doesn't mean "tell me your life story while you pass" it means say hello and say you are good/fine. There is no time to talk about how you are bad, how you've had a crappy day and you just want to die in a pile. Your actually feelings at the time don't matter, but to make things simple you just nod smile and say I'm alright you?
Anyway..just wondered if I was the only one who never really knows how to answer stuff. Maybe there should be classes, hehe. They teach you how to answer and make everybody happy. But in all actuality I don't think anyone really wants to hear your bad news, they're just asking to be polite.
-Lia