hey jules. i wanted to call u after my class yesterday but i chickened out. the class is on coping with death. mostly the prof talks about old people and sickness, he hasn't mentioned suicide yet. i thought about asking him what i should say but then i chickened out. i think i know what he'd say anyway, probably that i should just be there for you and listen to your stories about your friend; but i am not physically there for you and i never know what to say on the phone. it makes me sad that you are hurting and there's nothing i can really do for you. i hope you have your other friends there to grieve with. if you need me to do anything, please tell me because i want to help.
catholic funerals and wakes are depressing. i've only been to a couple, but i can honestly say that the jews are way better at this shit. my grandfather's funeral was really lovely and personal - the rabbi came to visit our family, who was sitting shiva the day before and asked for stories to get to know him and he worked them into the service. and then he said something that i will always remember, tho i can't recall the exact wording leading up to it, it was about how when you die and go to the "pearly gates" the dude there asks you three things in order to get in and one of them was "did you enjoy all of life's permitted pleasures?" and i thought "wow, jews believe god wants you to enjoy life! we are so much cooler than catholics." and in the end the rabbi basically said, yes, my grandfather was able to get into heaven because he did all those things god wants you to do, and that was reassuring, even tho i don't believe in heaven.
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catholic funerals and wakes are depressing. i've only been to a couple, but i can honestly say that the jews are way better at this shit. my grandfather's funeral was really lovely and personal - the rabbi came to visit our family, who was sitting shiva the day before and asked for stories to get to know him and he worked them into the service. and then he said something that i will always remember, tho i can't recall the exact wording leading up to it, it was about how when you die and go to the "pearly gates" the dude there asks you three things in order to get in and one of them was "did you enjoy all of life's permitted pleasures?" and i thought "wow, jews believe god wants you to enjoy life! we are so much cooler than catholics." and in the end the rabbi basically said, yes, my grandfather was able to get into heaven because he did all those things god wants you to do, and that was reassuring, even tho i don't believe in heaven.
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