Grief
Today I got a call from Savannah to let me know that there was a death in the family. My ex-sister-in-law had just lost her sister. I felt so sad for her. My pain was deep. The reason I had this grief is because she reminded me of my nephew's death. She said, "At least my sister didn't die on the 16th." I realized, even though its been 2 years, she was still grieving her son's death. One must ask herself "When is the time to stop grieving?" I was always told the loss of a child is the worst thing that can happen to a parent. And, yes, we all grieved our nephew's death. Some point in time, however, you have to put that grief in a box b/c I truly believe that grief can kill you. It can cause you to lose everything you have in the present: love, friendship and more. I'm not saying you shouldn't grieve. Its part of life. But I do think that we have to live in the now and not in the past. When grief takes you over, you need to stop and look at what you have. Whats here now and not whats in the past. Yes she will always miss her son, as we all miss our nephew but I don't think he would want us to live in the past and to grieve. I think he would want us to live the best we could and to be happy. I do think its important to grieve. there is also a time to look at what you have and to live n the now.