Mother of all problems -_-;;
I've been dating, on and off, for the past ten years now. Mostly off. But in my decade of experience, I have learned one very abundant truth - Mothers are the bane of my existence.
In my first relationship with a "girl" named Mitzi, I identified her mother early on as a questionable person. She hated men, openly declared them to be idiots, and spoiled her only child to an alarming degree, throwing her wealth around like it made her better than everyone else. Needless to say, Mitzi grew up with an entitled attitude and a negative impression of my gender, leading her to have an overwhelmingly condescending and self-centered personality. Those two were awful, and are a prime example of the phrase "money don't make good people".
In my second relationship, thankfully, there were no maternal issues. Beth's mother was a good, kind person, who showed me a wonderful amount of trust considering the age difference between me and her daughter, and I was very grateful to her for it. We had a good relationship.
In my third relationship, which I widely identify as the one that really messed me up, those who know me best already know what I'm going to say about this one. The less said, the better. Suffice to say, I didn't leave things with a favorable impression of Sarah's mother, and I take a small consolation in knowing that the feeling was mutual.
In my fourth relationship with Courtney, her mother didn't necessarily have a negative impact on the relationship itself - at least, not directly. But she was a childish, selfish, and irresponsible person, who placed an overwhelming amount of stress on the girl I loved. This indirectly put strain on the relationship, and after nearly a year of it, I got fed up and suggested that my significant other ignore the heap of responsibility that had been unfairly thrust upon her, and instead focus on us. This led us to our first real fight, after which the relationship fell apart.
Now, I find myself starting to have feelings for someone new - a woman named Shelby, with whom I have numerous mutual friends but also whom I've never actually met in person. We've been talking online and through text for about a month and a half now, and finally made plans to meet for lunch in a public place that we both knew. I woke up yesterday, shaved, took a shower, got dressed, and was just about to put my shoes on and head out the door when I got a text from her. Apparently, her mother didn't want her meeting me. She was overprotective about her daughter, and felt there was too much risk. Nevermind the fact that Shelby is an adult, and can legally do whatever the hell she wants -_-;;
So, after some debate, and after I'd suppressed the overwhelming urge to launch into a tirade about it, it was decided that we can only meet if there is a group of our friends present. Mind you, this wasn't a date. It was just two friends meeting for lunch. Shelby was hurt badly by someone in the recent past, and doesn't wish to be in another relationship just yet. I understand that quite well, and I care about her enough that I'm happy to wait for her. It's my hope that someday, I can show her that my feelings for her are genuine, and that I will do everything in my power to make her happy. But for now, all she wants is a friend, and I'm okay with that. But even that seems to be jeopardized, thanks to an overbearing maternal figure. So we won't meet until probably sometime in the next week or two, at the next D&D session. Where I'll be busy running the session and won't have any time to speak with her one-on-one. Something that is essential if I'm ever to let her know how much I care.
Sigh.
In my first relationship with a "girl" named Mitzi, I identified her mother early on as a questionable person. She hated men, openly declared them to be idiots, and spoiled her only child to an alarming degree, throwing her wealth around like it made her better than everyone else. Needless to say, Mitzi grew up with an entitled attitude and a negative impression of my gender, leading her to have an overwhelmingly condescending and self-centered personality. Those two were awful, and are a prime example of the phrase "money don't make good people".
In my second relationship, thankfully, there were no maternal issues. Beth's mother was a good, kind person, who showed me a wonderful amount of trust considering the age difference between me and her daughter, and I was very grateful to her for it. We had a good relationship.
In my third relationship, which I widely identify as the one that really messed me up, those who know me best already know what I'm going to say about this one. The less said, the better. Suffice to say, I didn't leave things with a favorable impression of Sarah's mother, and I take a small consolation in knowing that the feeling was mutual.
In my fourth relationship with Courtney, her mother didn't necessarily have a negative impact on the relationship itself - at least, not directly. But she was a childish, selfish, and irresponsible person, who placed an overwhelming amount of stress on the girl I loved. This indirectly put strain on the relationship, and after nearly a year of it, I got fed up and suggested that my significant other ignore the heap of responsibility that had been unfairly thrust upon her, and instead focus on us. This led us to our first real fight, after which the relationship fell apart.
Now, I find myself starting to have feelings for someone new - a woman named Shelby, with whom I have numerous mutual friends but also whom I've never actually met in person. We've been talking online and through text for about a month and a half now, and finally made plans to meet for lunch in a public place that we both knew. I woke up yesterday, shaved, took a shower, got dressed, and was just about to put my shoes on and head out the door when I got a text from her. Apparently, her mother didn't want her meeting me. She was overprotective about her daughter, and felt there was too much risk. Nevermind the fact that Shelby is an adult, and can legally do whatever the hell she wants -_-;;
So, after some debate, and after I'd suppressed the overwhelming urge to launch into a tirade about it, it was decided that we can only meet if there is a group of our friends present. Mind you, this wasn't a date. It was just two friends meeting for lunch. Shelby was hurt badly by someone in the recent past, and doesn't wish to be in another relationship just yet. I understand that quite well, and I care about her enough that I'm happy to wait for her. It's my hope that someday, I can show her that my feelings for her are genuine, and that I will do everything in my power to make her happy. But for now, all she wants is a friend, and I'm okay with that. But even that seems to be jeopardized, thanks to an overbearing maternal figure. So we won't meet until probably sometime in the next week or two, at the next D&D session. Where I'll be busy running the session and won't have any time to speak with her one-on-one. Something that is essential if I'm ever to let her know how much I care.
Sigh.