Then I Cried...
"Every time shit like this happens I get angry cuz she just wants her dad and he can't be bothered so she's latching to the first piece of available male attention."
- Me (Talking to Teri. Yup, it has reached levels where I reached out to others.)
Listen…
Yesterday Mo and I got home from the beach only to walk into more drama.
Right now, I as mother, me as a mom, this person as a parent, am disgusted. I don't even know how to compute what I saw on her computer screen last night.
Basically, without all the bells and whistles, Tyler has been emotionally manipulating/abusing Mo. He's doing everything he can to drive a wedge between she and I. Last night he told her that I have a history of lying so I asked for the receipts. ESPECIALLY since he told her he could get in trouble for telling her. (Why would he get in trouble? Cuz if I've caught someone in a lie, best believe Imma announce it from the rooftops with bulletproof evidence so that there could be no arguments made around the truth)
Funny part is, at first, I was on his side cuz the things he listed, especially one of them, were plausible but easily explained, which to me felt as if his complaints were warranted. That is, until Mo started sending him the reasons for his "proof" then he switched to saying she was justifying my actions. Like wait, what? I've had no actions in this whole situation. FOH.
Now, as any narcissist in training knows, once the victim starts making sense, the best thing for you is to start throwing things up that have been said in the past and right on the Manipulation For Dummies schedule, he did exactly that. This was his moment to stick his disgusting little claws in her and just as I was waiting for, he did.
He was weaponizing everything that she'd said to him and throwing it back in her face. Now, as a parent, I told both Zyi' and Mo that only a moron would believe that their kids have never uttered a mean word about them. Shit, as a kid, I had an "I can talk all the shit I want about my family but you had better not utter a peep or that's a wrap" policy. No matter how I felt, I never allowed anyone to feel comfortable weighing in on my family cuz guess what? I know them. You don't.
This kid needs therapy and from the looks of it, so does she. I'm pretty good at advice and shit, but I'm accountable enough to admit that this is above my pay grade. So above that all I could do this morning was cry. This is gross.
It reminds me of how Player 456 used to tell me that all my struggles would disappear if I would just open my doors and let him back in, that I wasn't the me he knew anymore. Coincidentally, this was the same toxic, manipulative shit that Tyler was telling Mo last night. That she wasn't the her that he knew anymore and where did the Samora he knew go… It was damn near line by line a screenshot of a conversation that I've had with Player 456. As I told her, this isn't love. I don't care if Mo was flat out calling me all kinds of bitches and hoes, the man who loves her wouldn't even weigh in and also as I told her last night, this is a line that even Player 456 wouldn't dare cross. He tried me one time about my family and was taught IMMEDIATELY not to do so ever again.
It's just like him demanding respect for his mom even tho' she was disrespecting me at every turn. Now Tyler is doing the same to Mo. Demanding, no, practically begging, her to keep the peace with his family while he gets to run around disrespecting hers even though he himself speaks on his family behind their backs. I know because he has done it here and I asked him flat out if he really felt as if his family was racist/homophobic/toxic, why was he bringing Mo into that type of environment? His answer was because he wanted something different but the longer this has gone on, the more I'm thinking that he wanted to piss his family off with something he thought he could control… Only to run into one hell of a speed bump: Me.
I need a solution that won't cause Mo more emotional damage. How do I get her away from this child? Well, adult cuz according to Mo, as of today, this disgusting brat is an adult.
Doesn't matter. Point still stands.
Later
PS: While I was crying talking to her, I told her that this isn't love and if something I've done ever made her think this type of shit is okay, then I was in the wrong and I apologize cuz nothing about how Tyler is treating her is love. All of it is emotional/phycological/spiritual abuse.
PS2: Tyler's mom says she's not reading his messages. Um ma'am, maybe you should start
- Me (Talking to Teri. Yup, it has reached levels where I reached out to others.)
Listen…
Yesterday Mo and I got home from the beach only to walk into more drama.
Right now, I as mother, me as a mom, this person as a parent, am disgusted. I don't even know how to compute what I saw on her computer screen last night.
Basically, without all the bells and whistles, Tyler has been emotionally manipulating/abusing Mo. He's doing everything he can to drive a wedge between she and I. Last night he told her that I have a history of lying so I asked for the receipts. ESPECIALLY since he told her he could get in trouble for telling her. (Why would he get in trouble? Cuz if I've caught someone in a lie, best believe Imma announce it from the rooftops with bulletproof evidence so that there could be no arguments made around the truth)
Funny part is, at first, I was on his side cuz the things he listed, especially one of them, were plausible but easily explained, which to me felt as if his complaints were warranted. That is, until Mo started sending him the reasons for his "proof" then he switched to saying she was justifying my actions. Like wait, what? I've had no actions in this whole situation. FOH.
Now, as any narcissist in training knows, once the victim starts making sense, the best thing for you is to start throwing things up that have been said in the past and right on the Manipulation For Dummies schedule, he did exactly that. This was his moment to stick his disgusting little claws in her and just as I was waiting for, he did.
He was weaponizing everything that she'd said to him and throwing it back in her face. Now, as a parent, I told both Zyi' and Mo that only a moron would believe that their kids have never uttered a mean word about them. Shit, as a kid, I had an "I can talk all the shit I want about my family but you had better not utter a peep or that's a wrap" policy. No matter how I felt, I never allowed anyone to feel comfortable weighing in on my family cuz guess what? I know them. You don't.
This kid needs therapy and from the looks of it, so does she. I'm pretty good at advice and shit, but I'm accountable enough to admit that this is above my pay grade. So above that all I could do this morning was cry. This is gross.
It reminds me of how Player 456 used to tell me that all my struggles would disappear if I would just open my doors and let him back in, that I wasn't the me he knew anymore. Coincidentally, this was the same toxic, manipulative shit that Tyler was telling Mo last night. That she wasn't the her that he knew anymore and where did the Samora he knew go… It was damn near line by line a screenshot of a conversation that I've had with Player 456. As I told her, this isn't love. I don't care if Mo was flat out calling me all kinds of bitches and hoes, the man who loves her wouldn't even weigh in and also as I told her last night, this is a line that even Player 456 wouldn't dare cross. He tried me one time about my family and was taught IMMEDIATELY not to do so ever again.
It's just like him demanding respect for his mom even tho' she was disrespecting me at every turn. Now Tyler is doing the same to Mo. Demanding, no, practically begging, her to keep the peace with his family while he gets to run around disrespecting hers even though he himself speaks on his family behind their backs. I know because he has done it here and I asked him flat out if he really felt as if his family was racist/homophobic/toxic, why was he bringing Mo into that type of environment? His answer was because he wanted something different but the longer this has gone on, the more I'm thinking that he wanted to piss his family off with something he thought he could control… Only to run into one hell of a speed bump: Me.
I need a solution that won't cause Mo more emotional damage. How do I get her away from this child? Well, adult cuz according to Mo, as of today, this disgusting brat is an adult.
Doesn't matter. Point still stands.
Later
PS: While I was crying talking to her, I told her that this isn't love and if something I've done ever made her think this type of shit is okay, then I was in the wrong and I apologize cuz nothing about how Tyler is treating her is love. All of it is emotional/phycological/spiritual abuse.
PS2: Tyler's mom says she's not reading his messages. Um ma'am, maybe you should start