*choke* Must... vent...

[shesquint]

So, my friend has this girlfriend who's pretty awful. I get along with her. If I had only my interactions with her to go on, I'd probably like her. But the longer he dates her, the more she infuriates me

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[freja999]

I'll tell ya why she's butt ugly to me; She always scowls. You may have seen her being all shiny and such, but as often as I've encountered her over the years and as often as I tried to talk to her (and I'm SHY, Damn it!), she has always given me the cold shoulder, even shrugged and turn away from me as I talked to her. And that scowl? It turns what might be an otherwise lovely face rather froggish.

Also, sometimes I wonder if I come across preachy and self righteous when it comes to the kids department. Again, my opinions are my own, though I may feel strongly about them. I *did* take a step back and ask someone who was raised by a single mother hovering on the poverty line whether he thought my assessment about the involvement of someone in their mother's lives was similar to mine. He felt strongly felt that the responsibility of a child rests ultimately and soley with the parent and that any unhealthy dependent relationship was a negative force in his life and his mother's ability to raise him. She got out of those and avoided them in the future. So now you have one single mother's POV and one child's raised by a struggling single mother (struggling is an understatement. I give that woman mad props for what she survived!) POV.

I wish them all the best. And she needs to start being nice to other people starting with returning a smile.

[shesquint]

She is not one to be gracious to the pretty girls, unfortunately. (One more black mark on her record, that, and it's stupid of her; my best friends are pretty girls, except the ones who aren't girls at all.)

Someday when it comes up--and it will--I will mention what you said to Dave. I won't quote you directly and it certainly won't change anything right off the bat, but at least the seed will be there. Here's hoping he'll eventually take it and run with it.