Work.
Yeaah... Isn't it amazing how fast your life can change? One day you're with someone and you're in love. The next day you're not with that someone. And after that... it really starts to hurt.
But don't worry I didn't come here to go through it all again. I'm done thinking how it could have been or why it went like that. I'm done with thinking just him. Because let's face it ladies and gentlemen - he was a totall asshole. He still is. And I still have a soft spot for that asshole. But I'm done with him. Seriously. Let's continue.
You know what really helps when you're going through a break up? I can tell you what worked for me:
1. friends
- call them, send them desparate emails and meet them as much as possible. remember you had life before your ex and remind yourself that you WILL have life after him
2. relatives
- of course it's annoying to explain everyone why did you break up and it's hard to go through all the happenings and emotions again BUT if it helps you should do it. if they ask just tell the short version. no matter what you can always count that your mom and dad will be on your side and help you with everything.
3. comics and tv-series
- now this doesn't mean you have to bury yourself under books and become a living part of your sofa but it really helps when night starts to come and you have nothing to do and all the thoughts start to pop to your head again. go through all the tintins, asterixs and lucky lukes you can find. borrow your friend's star gate season one and watch it through.
4. future plans
- take it day by day. BUT. move your stuff away from him. get a new apartment. get a job. organize your life in better order. take care of your everyday life.
5. BISHOUNEN
- i know i know. this isn't what it seems. it is NOT healthy to start a new relationship after you've just broke up with someone but at one point you need to give it a thought. maybe next time you meet somebody you should get to know him better. maybe you don't need to jump on to such a serious relationship so fast. you're allow to wait a bit. it's not wrong to want someone you can cuddle and kiss and watch tv and just hang around. if you're used to give and get affection it's ok to have someone you can hugg every now and then. JUST remember to make sure that someone knows where you're going in your relationship and what you want from it.
6. BISHOUNEN part. 2
- after a long relationship you need to learn to drool after other boys/girls. remind yourself that now it is ok to strip good looking fellows in your mind again. to practise this go and join
jdramas and upload bishounen series to your computer. i was helped by
oanja who introduced me to wonderful world of Hanazakari no Kimitachi e which is LOADED with bishounen. i mean really. LOTS of droolable men. lots. my ultimate favourite is Nakatsu Shuichi played by Toma Ikuta.
awwwwww.
aaaand let us not forget TEH fanservice.
That is all. A new fandom's born.
I'm going tomorrow to pack my things from our place. And I feel ok. I can do it. Goodbye past, welcome future.
But don't worry I didn't come here to go through it all again. I'm done thinking how it could have been or why it went like that. I'm done with thinking just him. Because let's face it ladies and gentlemen - he was a totall asshole. He still is. And I still have a soft spot for that asshole. But I'm done with him. Seriously. Let's continue.
You know what really helps when you're going through a break up? I can tell you what worked for me:
1. friends
- call them, send them desparate emails and meet them as much as possible. remember you had life before your ex and remind yourself that you WILL have life after him
2. relatives
- of course it's annoying to explain everyone why did you break up and it's hard to go through all the happenings and emotions again BUT if it helps you should do it. if they ask just tell the short version. no matter what you can always count that your mom and dad will be on your side and help you with everything.
3. comics and tv-series
- now this doesn't mean you have to bury yourself under books and become a living part of your sofa but it really helps when night starts to come and you have nothing to do and all the thoughts start to pop to your head again. go through all the tintins, asterixs and lucky lukes you can find. borrow your friend's star gate season one and watch it through.
4. future plans
- take it day by day. BUT. move your stuff away from him. get a new apartment. get a job. organize your life in better order. take care of your everyday life.
5. BISHOUNEN
- i know i know. this isn't what it seems. it is NOT healthy to start a new relationship after you've just broke up with someone but at one point you need to give it a thought. maybe next time you meet somebody you should get to know him better. maybe you don't need to jump on to such a serious relationship so fast. you're allow to wait a bit. it's not wrong to want someone you can cuddle and kiss and watch tv and just hang around. if you're used to give and get affection it's ok to have someone you can hugg every now and then. JUST remember to make sure that someone knows where you're going in your relationship and what you want from it.
6. BISHOUNEN part. 2
- after a long relationship you need to learn to drool after other boys/girls. remind yourself that now it is ok to strip good looking fellows in your mind again. to practise this go and join
jdramas and upload bishounen series to your computer. i was helped by
oanja who introduced me to wonderful world of Hanazakari no Kimitachi e which is LOADED with bishounen. i mean really. LOTS of droolable men. lots. my ultimate favourite is Nakatsu Shuichi played by Toma Ikuta.
awwwwww.
aaaand let us not forget TEH fanservice.
That is all. A new fandom's born.
I'm going tomorrow to pack my things from our place. And I feel ok. I can do it. Goodbye past, welcome future.