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Relaxing in bed...sorta
First night in a bit that I've had to myself. If I have any complaint with my current relationship, it's that he's a bit clingy/possessive. Never really had that problem before. Still, how nice is it to have someone want to be around you all the time? Pretty good feeling; not so good experience.
Feeling like I have to utilize my time alone is straining. No matter how close you are to someone, there's no replacement for having just yourself in your head.
There's a social isolationism that comes when people see you and your significant together CONSTANTLY- they think you're always a package deal, and not individuals who can be interacted with personally.
Actually having to say: "I'm going to go home and take the night for myself" and have him look hurt and confused (but he's not really, he's too intelligent for that) is awkward.
I'm figuring out how I function best, socially, academically, emotionally, and it involves personal time and time spent with different people. One person cannot fulfill you completely; at least not for most people. Or maybe I'm just eccentric. Either way, I know what makes me happiest, and it involves having my own life. Which I think he should too. There's no reason to spend so much time with someone that you lose previous relationships and friendships, social activities or extracurriculars. A relationship adds to your life- it doesn't detract from it. But hey, we're making forward progress.
And honestly, you can't find a better person than him. I'm not going to let this one get away because I can't put myself in the driver's seat once in a while.
First night in a bit that I've had to myself. If I have any complaint with my current relationship, it's that he's a bit clingy/possessive. Never really had that problem before. Still, how nice is it to have someone want to be around you all the time? Pretty good feeling; not so good experience.
Feeling like I have to utilize my time alone is straining. No matter how close you are to someone, there's no replacement for having just yourself in your head.
There's a social isolationism that comes when people see you and your significant together CONSTANTLY- they think you're always a package deal, and not individuals who can be interacted with personally.
Actually having to say: "I'm going to go home and take the night for myself" and have him look hurt and confused (but he's not really, he's too intelligent for that) is awkward.
I'm figuring out how I function best, socially, academically, emotionally, and it involves personal time and time spent with different people. One person cannot fulfill you completely; at least not for most people. Or maybe I'm just eccentric. Either way, I know what makes me happiest, and it involves having my own life. Which I think he should too. There's no reason to spend so much time with someone that you lose previous relationships and friendships, social activities or extracurriculars. A relationship adds to your life- it doesn't detract from it. But hey, we're making forward progress.
And honestly, you can't find a better person than him. I'm not going to let this one get away because I can't put myself in the driver's seat once in a while.