Change is in the Air
As it turns out, the past month has been just about the craziest time of my entire life. My company is finished at this point. In just a few more weeks, it'll be gone completely. And while that has been extremely taxing and challenging for me, I feel pretty good.
Because I am still me, in spite of everything that has happened. I'm smart, capable, overconfident, all that good stuff. I handled this whole ordeal really well, I've conquered the illness that was plaguing me throughout last year, and I feel pretty great. And...the kicker: I've started dating. Been like 3 years, and I was nervous at first that I didn't know what the hell I was doing, but I think that nervousness is going away. I can be charming when I'm feeling good and not overthinking.
That's the theme of my life right now. Crazy stuff is going on left and right. Cranes are falling, I have all this bullshit I have to dealt with, and yet I feel in control. The change is like night and day for me, especially in comparison to how I was feeling this time last year.
Ultimately, I know that however my business stuff resolves, however I make a living afterward, I'm gonna be successful. Because I'm still me. And what happened will be for the better.
Bonus section: Some thoughts on dating
K, it's been a while, and I'm no where near a pro on this dating thing, but I have been giving it some thought. For one, I noticed that I had no problem flirting with women back in college, but that after I left, things got a bit harder. My theory about this phenomenon is that I started thinking about it too much. Dating is all about confidence, the more of it, the better, and thinking (about the date) is only necessary if you doubt your ability to handle things. The fact is, when I'm not analyzing the situation or thinking about it, I do fine. All I need to do is trust that I'll handle it well and that it's not the end of the world even if I don't. Again, confidence is the only requirement for dating, in this analysis.
Another observation I had is related, but a bit different. I find that I hurt myself when I impose expectations on the other person. Really, I think the key is to take everything moment to moment, and see where things go. If they go somewhere you really like, great, hopefully they'll keep going in that way. If they go somewhere you don't like, well, call it off, and go find someone else. There are plenty of other people out there. It's really quite simple. My mantra for this mentality is "one day at a time". If I find myself distressed thinking about the relationship or dating, I just say to myself, "just one day at a time". I don't worry about the future, because there's really no need to. Either you enjoy spending time with them or you don't. Either you like them or you don't. There really isn't much to think about. The only way to find out the answers to these questions is, well, to just go out there, put yourself out on a line, and see what you feel afterward.
Also, I highly recommend okcupid.
Because I am still me, in spite of everything that has happened. I'm smart, capable, overconfident, all that good stuff. I handled this whole ordeal really well, I've conquered the illness that was plaguing me throughout last year, and I feel pretty great. And...the kicker: I've started dating. Been like 3 years, and I was nervous at first that I didn't know what the hell I was doing, but I think that nervousness is going away. I can be charming when I'm feeling good and not overthinking.
That's the theme of my life right now. Crazy stuff is going on left and right. Cranes are falling, I have all this bullshit I have to dealt with, and yet I feel in control. The change is like night and day for me, especially in comparison to how I was feeling this time last year.
Ultimately, I know that however my business stuff resolves, however I make a living afterward, I'm gonna be successful. Because I'm still me. And what happened will be for the better.
Bonus section: Some thoughts on dating
K, it's been a while, and I'm no where near a pro on this dating thing, but I have been giving it some thought. For one, I noticed that I had no problem flirting with women back in college, but that after I left, things got a bit harder. My theory about this phenomenon is that I started thinking about it too much. Dating is all about confidence, the more of it, the better, and thinking (about the date) is only necessary if you doubt your ability to handle things. The fact is, when I'm not analyzing the situation or thinking about it, I do fine. All I need to do is trust that I'll handle it well and that it's not the end of the world even if I don't. Again, confidence is the only requirement for dating, in this analysis.
Another observation I had is related, but a bit different. I find that I hurt myself when I impose expectations on the other person. Really, I think the key is to take everything moment to moment, and see where things go. If they go somewhere you really like, great, hopefully they'll keep going in that way. If they go somewhere you don't like, well, call it off, and go find someone else. There are plenty of other people out there. It's really quite simple. My mantra for this mentality is "one day at a time". If I find myself distressed thinking about the relationship or dating, I just say to myself, "just one day at a time". I don't worry about the future, because there's really no need to. Either you enjoy spending time with them or you don't. Either you like them or you don't. There really isn't much to think about. The only way to find out the answers to these questions is, well, to just go out there, put yourself out on a line, and see what you feel afterward.
Also, I highly recommend okcupid.